Saturday, February 24, 2007
I've been talking to this guy
Jessica, 16, from California asks:
I've been talking to this guy and at first we flirted and everything was ok and we started talking and then one day I had an idea to walk home and he said he'll walk home with me (just a chance for us to get closer maybe even go out)... well, later on that day my mom said no I couldn't walk home then I told him I couldn't and he was ok but then my sister got her to say yes and sooo I went back to him saying I could walk and he didn't want to and I was like why?...and he was like whatever and I was like grrr and I got hella mad because he practically was like ignoring me and soo yeah then I said what the hell and we said our sorrys and stuff soo we were back to talking and then on saturday out of the blue he's all like I know you like me and I don't want you to talk to me anymore so I was like hella hurt because i REALLY like this guy. Well anyways... I did what he said not talk to him...but it was really hard because I had a period with him soo I switched anyways...soo yeah but I have my best guy friend...he has him 4th period and the guy always asks about me and stuff and yesterday he was like "why did jessica switch classes?"...and he always constantly looks at the picture of me on my best guy friend's binder...and anyways...my friend was like I don't know and then the guy asked for a pencil and he said no... and he was like if you give me the pencil I'll ask jessica out and my guy friend gave him the pencil and he was like I'll think about it and later told him he'll call me....he never did but yeah whatever he just always talks about me with my guy friend now. He told me not to talk to him anymore but if he's talking about me, what does that mean???....Does he like me because he used to he told about two weeks before he said want me to talk to him because it was "CONFUSING"... whatever... I need your help love ya always xoxo*JeSsIcA*
VictorM's answer:
The first thing I have to say after reading your questions is: I'm so happy I'm not a teenager anymore. Man, what drama over a pencil! :)
What does it mean that he asks about you? It means he knows he can screw with you and your friend, and he likes it. It's good for his ego to know there's a girl who likes him, even if he doesn't like her back. It's all about feeding HIS ego, not about liking YOU.
He used to like you when he thought you were a challenge. Once he found out you liked him, he lost interest. It happens 87.47% of the times with teen boys (yeah, I made that number up, but it happens a lot). Most teen boys have a hard time being serious with one girl because their hormones require challenges and conquests. The more the marrier.
Don't give up on the kid. Generally boys develop slower than girls. Trust me, he's much more confused about girls than you are about him and once he settles down, who knows, he may realize you're the coolest girl on the planet. Meanwhile, ignore him and play hard to get. That improves your odds of him coming around. Make yourself a challenge.
I've been talking to this guy and at first we flirted and everything was ok and we started talking and then one day I had an idea to walk home and he said he'll walk home with me (just a chance for us to get closer maybe even go out)... well, later on that day my mom said no I couldn't walk home then I told him I couldn't and he was ok but then my sister got her to say yes and sooo I went back to him saying I could walk and he didn't want to and I was like why?...and he was like whatever and I was like grrr and I got hella mad because he practically was like ignoring me and soo yeah then I said what the hell and we said our sorrys and stuff soo we were back to talking and then on saturday out of the blue he's all like I know you like me and I don't want you to talk to me anymore so I was like hella hurt because i REALLY like this guy. Well anyways... I did what he said not talk to him...but it was really hard because I had a period with him soo I switched anyways...soo yeah but I have my best guy friend...he has him 4th period and the guy always asks about me and stuff and yesterday he was like "why did jessica switch classes?"...and he always constantly looks at the picture of me on my best guy friend's binder...and anyways...my friend was like I don't know and then the guy asked for a pencil and he said no... and he was like if you give me the pencil I'll ask jessica out and my guy friend gave him the pencil and he was like I'll think about it and later told him he'll call me....he never did but yeah whatever he just always talks about me with my guy friend now. He told me not to talk to him anymore but if he's talking about me, what does that mean???....Does he like me because he used to he told about two weeks before he said want me to talk to him because it was "CONFUSING"... whatever... I need your help love ya always xoxo*JeSsIcA*
VictorM's answer:
The first thing I have to say after reading your questions is: I'm so happy I'm not a teenager anymore. Man, what drama over a pencil! :)
What does it mean that he asks about you? It means he knows he can screw with you and your friend, and he likes it. It's good for his ego to know there's a girl who likes him, even if he doesn't like her back. It's all about feeding HIS ego, not about liking YOU.
He used to like you when he thought you were a challenge. Once he found out you liked him, he lost interest. It happens 87.47% of the times with teen boys (yeah, I made that number up, but it happens a lot). Most teen boys have a hard time being serious with one girl because their hormones require challenges and conquests. The more the marrier.
Don't give up on the kid. Generally boys develop slower than girls. Trust me, he's much more confused about girls than you are about him and once he settles down, who knows, he may realize you're the coolest girl on the planet. Meanwhile, ignore him and play hard to get. That improves your odds of him coming around. Make yourself a challenge.
Labels: attraction, conquest, relationship, teen boys, teen girls
