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Sunday, March 04, 2007
Out of the blue he emails
ronda, 37, from indiana asks:
My ex-boyfriend and I have not seen each other in five years. We dated beginning ten years ago , kinda grew apart but still talked. Just recently as I was getting over the fact that I would not be talking to him any more and met someone else, out of the blue he emails. Nothing really just a new project that he was working on. It kinda got in my head, I told him that I loved him all these years, he says that he loves me and we will only be friends, but lately I get two emails a week from him, asking me to review his new projects. I was always a support to him. I still care for him, but I don't see how we can be friends and were ex-lovers. He even says he's seeing someone. I'm growing over it, but what does he want with me?
VictorM's answer:
You provided the answer to your own question: "I was always a support to him." He wants support. You're a friend, someone he likes (loves, as a friend), someone he feels comfortable with, someone he's made clear to he's not interested in romantically, and therefore, the perfect person for support. If you're reading more than that into it, you're barking up the wrong tree.
There's also something of an ego boost to be in contact with someone you know likes you romantically. Even if you don't feel the same way about them, their attention is flattering.
Continue to grow over it.
My ex-boyfriend and I have not seen each other in five years. We dated beginning ten years ago , kinda grew apart but still talked. Just recently as I was getting over the fact that I would not be talking to him any more and met someone else, out of the blue he emails. Nothing really just a new project that he was working on. It kinda got in my head, I told him that I loved him all these years, he says that he loves me and we will only be friends, but lately I get two emails a week from him, asking me to review his new projects. I was always a support to him. I still care for him, but I don't see how we can be friends and were ex-lovers. He even says he's seeing someone. I'm growing over it, but what does he want with me?
VictorM's answer:
You provided the answer to your own question: "I was always a support to him." He wants support. You're a friend, someone he likes (loves, as a friend), someone he feels comfortable with, someone he's made clear to he's not interested in romantically, and therefore, the perfect person for support. If you're reading more than that into it, you're barking up the wrong tree.
There's also something of an ego boost to be in contact with someone you know likes you romantically. Even if you don't feel the same way about them, their attention is flattering.
Continue to grow over it.
Labels: ex-boyfriend, out of the blue, support
