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Tuesday, December 26, 2006
What's his problem?
josie, 17, from texas asks:
This guy started to like me and I wasn't really ready to get into a relationship, but then he won me over. And we started talking and hanging out and he was like I think I am falling in love with you. Then we officially started to go out and the next day he says I'm childish and wants to break up so I'm like completely at a loss but I'm like OK. So he texts me and says I still love you and I wanna be friends. I say OK so I give an ex boyfriend of mine a ride home and the guy that just broke up with me gets all angry at me and he says I did him wrong by giving my old ex a ride and he says that we did it and I say no we didn't, it was just a ride and he says the real reason he broke up with me was because we will be graduating in 4 months and he doesn't want to get hurt but he still loves me so I'm like if you loved me you would believe me when I say nothing happened and try to work it out..forget about graduate and lets just enjoy it now, so then we start to hang out again and a couple of days later he is avoiding me again! So is he just playing mind games with me a never cared like he said he did or what do you think is his problem?
VictorM's advice:
I think he loves you, like a child loves a toy kinda thing. I don't believe he's playing mind games; he's just a child not yet ready for a relationship. His insecurity and his changing his mind just mean this boy is more ready for a game of Parcheesi than he is to have a girlfriend. Who knows, when he grows up he might be OK, but right now you're wasting your time with him.
Give him a lollipop and send him home to mommy.
This guy started to like me and I wasn't really ready to get into a relationship, but then he won me over. And we started talking and hanging out and he was like I think I am falling in love with you. Then we officially started to go out and the next day he says I'm childish and wants to break up so I'm like completely at a loss but I'm like OK. So he texts me and says I still love you and I wanna be friends. I say OK so I give an ex boyfriend of mine a ride home and the guy that just broke up with me gets all angry at me and he says I did him wrong by giving my old ex a ride and he says that we did it and I say no we didn't, it was just a ride and he says the real reason he broke up with me was because we will be graduating in 4 months and he doesn't want to get hurt but he still loves me so I'm like if you loved me you would believe me when I say nothing happened and try to work it out..forget about graduate and lets just enjoy it now, so then we start to hang out again and a couple of days later he is avoiding me again! So is he just playing mind games with me a never cared like he said he did or what do you think is his problem?
VictorM's advice:
I think he loves you, like a child loves a toy kinda thing. I don't believe he's playing mind games; he's just a child not yet ready for a relationship. His insecurity and his changing his mind just mean this boy is more ready for a game of Parcheesi than he is to have a girlfriend. Who knows, when he grows up he might be OK, but right now you're wasting your time with him.
Give him a lollipop and send him home to mommy.
Labels: boyfriend, childish, insecure
