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Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Super straight forward
chloe, high schoolean, from somewhere in the world asks:
So I haven't done a great job with the guy I like. I kinda went super straight forward and am sorta pushing something to happen and I keep sending him messages like "why hasn't anything happened since I told you I liked you" and stuff like that and we don't talk at school and we are super shy around each other. We really don't talk at all but I adore him so much and have liked him for over 4 months... and apparently around his friends he's normal but when we see each other and get out a hello we tend to look into each others eyes for like 5 sec. a slow 5 sec and then its awkward the rest of the night. Can anyone give me advice on how to win him over?
VictorM's advice:
He doesn't have to make a move. Why? Because he already knows you like him. It's like seeing a suspense movie and knowing the ending -- it takes some of the excitement off. Besides, you're putting too much pressure on the guy with those messages. Cut that out!
I suggest you try to just be his friend. Invite him to a movie, to the local hamburger joint, to go bowling (anything that you know he likes) and behave just like a friend. If he feels you're not an obsessive maniac he'll feel more relaxed talking to you.
My guess is that you're both around 15 and it's quite likely that he's not ready yet for a girlfriend, much less an aggressive one.
So I haven't done a great job with the guy I like. I kinda went super straight forward and am sorta pushing something to happen and I keep sending him messages like "why hasn't anything happened since I told you I liked you" and stuff like that and we don't talk at school and we are super shy around each other. We really don't talk at all but I adore him so much and have liked him for over 4 months... and apparently around his friends he's normal but when we see each other and get out a hello we tend to look into each others eyes for like 5 sec. a slow 5 sec and then its awkward the rest of the night. Can anyone give me advice on how to win him over?
VictorM's advice:
He doesn't have to make a move. Why? Because he already knows you like him. It's like seeing a suspense movie and knowing the ending -- it takes some of the excitement off. Besides, you're putting too much pressure on the guy with those messages. Cut that out!
I suggest you try to just be his friend. Invite him to a movie, to the local hamburger joint, to go bowling (anything that you know he likes) and behave just like a friend. If he feels you're not an obsessive maniac he'll feel more relaxed talking to you.
My guess is that you're both around 15 and it's quite likely that he's not ready yet for a girlfriend, much less an aggressive one.
Labels: advice, answer, high-school, shy
Friday, January 05, 2007
Is it weird that I like 12 graders?
Kira, 16, from Texas asks:
Is it weird that I like 12 graders? Both me and my friend like a senior, two different seniors. We are in 10th grade, we were paired with them in gym class during square dancing. We don't know what to make of it. Our friends say that they are way out of our league. Once the guys that we like sat out and we were stuck with guys that smoked. We gave the seniors a dirty look and then they looked worried. Afterwards the one senior went up to us and said sorry for sitting out. They didn't do it after that. We are so confused! They seem to like us but we have no idea.
VictorM's answer:
No, it's not weird you like seniors; it would be weird if you didn't. Let's face it, at 16 you're starting to have tastes a little more sophisticated and naturally older boys will be more appealing. And seniors have no problems with 16 year old girls, because chances are you've developed already. And at that age, it's important for them. That's not the only thing they'll notice but trust me, it's the major thing. So be prepared to handle that.
Is it weird that I like 12 graders? Both me and my friend like a senior, two different seniors. We are in 10th grade, we were paired with them in gym class during square dancing. We don't know what to make of it. Our friends say that they are way out of our league. Once the guys that we like sat out and we were stuck with guys that smoked. We gave the seniors a dirty look and then they looked worried. Afterwards the one senior went up to us and said sorry for sitting out. They didn't do it after that. We are so confused! They seem to like us but we have no idea.
VictorM's answer:
No, it's not weird you like seniors; it would be weird if you didn't. Let's face it, at 16 you're starting to have tastes a little more sophisticated and naturally older boys will be more appealing. And seniors have no problems with 16 year old girls, because chances are you've developed already. And at that age, it's important for them. That's not the only thing they'll notice but trust me, it's the major thing. So be prepared to handle that.
Labels: high-school, seniors
