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Sunday, January 21, 2007
Best friends with sister
Danielle, 18, from Florida asks:
I've known this guy for about 12 years, I'm best friends with his sister. The guy is two years older than me also. I moved away a few years ago, and before i moved me and the guy at the most said hi and whats up. My first visit to my best friends house after i moved(i stay there for weekends occasionally, her family considers me family) the guy was hanging around me more, talking more and complimented my newly dyed hair. Each visit after that , it goes up a 'level'. My last visit a couple months ago, the guy kissed me on the lips several times while i was there, i was kind of in shock, didn't expect it at all. When i was there a few weeks ago, he had a girlfriend that i met several times that week, but whenever she wasn't around he would be slapping my butt or cuddling with me. One night she was is his room, me and his sister was in her room dancing around, he left his girlfriend came into his sisters room and started dancing with me from behind but i moved away a little because it felt wrong with the g/f 15 feet away. Also one day we went to dinner at his grandparents and i was sitting on one side of him and she was on the other and he was 'rubbing' my back with his fingers. My last night there we were playing a video game, just me and him, his sister was in her room, and we also had music on so once in while he paused the game and sang to me, then he got up and started dancing and put his shirt over my head, then later on he was giving me a playful lap dance. Later on i decided to go watch tv and as i was getting up to walk out, he kinda took his hand and held my hand gently so as we walked in opposite directions his hand softly rubbed against mine. I have no idea what to think of this. Over the years with the visits there has been cuddling, hugs, playful teasing, grabs/slaps my ass, rubs my legs, touches my knee and legs when he goes to sit next to me, or he'll squeeze my thigh. I live 4 hours away now so there wouldn't be any chance of actually dating him, if in fact he did like me. Please help me a.s.a.p. Thankss!
VictorM's answer:
He's horny as hell and wants to do you. Duh!
Sometimes... this is an easy "job".
I've known this guy for about 12 years, I'm best friends with his sister. The guy is two years older than me also. I moved away a few years ago, and before i moved me and the guy at the most said hi and whats up. My first visit to my best friends house after i moved(i stay there for weekends occasionally, her family considers me family) the guy was hanging around me more, talking more and complimented my newly dyed hair. Each visit after that , it goes up a 'level'. My last visit a couple months ago, the guy kissed me on the lips several times while i was there, i was kind of in shock, didn't expect it at all. When i was there a few weeks ago, he had a girlfriend that i met several times that week, but whenever she wasn't around he would be slapping my butt or cuddling with me. One night she was is his room, me and his sister was in her room dancing around, he left his girlfriend came into his sisters room and started dancing with me from behind but i moved away a little because it felt wrong with the g/f 15 feet away. Also one day we went to dinner at his grandparents and i was sitting on one side of him and she was on the other and he was 'rubbing' my back with his fingers. My last night there we were playing a video game, just me and him, his sister was in her room, and we also had music on so once in while he paused the game and sang to me, then he got up and started dancing and put his shirt over my head, then later on he was giving me a playful lap dance. Later on i decided to go watch tv and as i was getting up to walk out, he kinda took his hand and held my hand gently so as we walked in opposite directions his hand softly rubbed against mine. I have no idea what to think of this. Over the years with the visits there has been cuddling, hugs, playful teasing, grabs/slaps my ass, rubs my legs, touches my knee and legs when he goes to sit next to me, or he'll squeeze my thigh. I live 4 hours away now so there wouldn't be any chance of actually dating him, if in fact he did like me. Please help me a.s.a.p. Thankss!
VictorM's answer:
He's horny as hell and wants to do you. Duh!
Sometimes... this is an easy "job".
Labels: advice, answer, best friends, flirt, horny
Saturday, December 30, 2006
He always writes me these cute e-mails
Macy, 23, from St.George asks:
So this guy at my worked said he "liked me" but it was on the internet and he always writes me these cute e-mails but at work he flirts with so many other girls and he barely talks to me. I think he's shy but my best friend says that he might be embarrassed to talk to me. What should I do? I like him a lot but I'm not really sure if he likes me. Should I ask him out or will he think I'm a freak.
VictorM's advice:
It's entirely possible he's told lots of other girls that he "likes them" and sends them cute emails. But that he flirts with other girls at work and not you suggests that he does like you. Trust me, in guy logic, this makes sense.
Of course, that you are coworkers could be complicating things. But if you're willing to take a chance, it would be wiser to ask him to go to some event with you. For example: "Hey, I'm going to see *pick a movie you know he wants to see*, would you like to come along?" Once you get him out of the office and away from the internet you might get a better sense of what his intentions are.
Don't be too obvious about your attentions. If he's not interested in you the same way you are about him it would turn things awkward for both of you at work.
So this guy at my worked said he "liked me" but it was on the internet and he always writes me these cute e-mails but at work he flirts with so many other girls and he barely talks to me. I think he's shy but my best friend says that he might be embarrassed to talk to me. What should I do? I like him a lot but I'm not really sure if he likes me. Should I ask him out or will he think I'm a freak.
VictorM's advice:
It's entirely possible he's told lots of other girls that he "likes them" and sends them cute emails. But that he flirts with other girls at work and not you suggests that he does like you. Trust me, in guy logic, this makes sense.
Of course, that you are coworkers could be complicating things. But if you're willing to take a chance, it would be wiser to ask him to go to some event with you. For example: "Hey, I'm going to see *pick a movie you know he wants to see*, would you like to come along?" Once you get him out of the office and away from the internet you might get a better sense of what his intentions are.
Don't be too obvious about your attentions. If he's not interested in you the same way you are about him it would turn things awkward for both of you at work.
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
I like this guy at work. He has a girlfriend
Alicia, 25, from Rhode Island asks:
I like this guy at work. He has a girlfriend and he knows that I like him. I was upfront with him about my feelings. We ended up fooling around once and after that he said he loves his girlfriend and he only did that for me. We didn't talk much after that until recently. He is always flirting with me and touching me. If I don't see him at work for a few days, he will say he has missed me. The other day he asked me when I was going to invite him over and I said never you have a girlfriend and made it clear to me we are just friends. He said to me that he wished he never said that. I just don't get it. I don't know if he's playing with my head. In my mind I want him to like me because he has my heart. I really enjoy his company I just don't know what he wants from me. I don't know what to do.
VictorM's advice:
You're counting on him being so into you that he dumps this girlfriend he supposedly loves to be with you. And you'll live happily ever after... until he cheats on you, that is. What else do you expect from a guy who cheats on his girlfriend and flirts with another girl?
If you get him, you lose! You'll be on your way to being an unhappy woman with some cheating man.
What he wants from you is simple: his ego inflated (not to mention other parts of his body). He toys with you because he can, yet another sign of a man you should avoid.
I like this guy at work. He has a girlfriend and he knows that I like him. I was upfront with him about my feelings. We ended up fooling around once and after that he said he loves his girlfriend and he only did that for me. We didn't talk much after that until recently. He is always flirting with me and touching me. If I don't see him at work for a few days, he will say he has missed me. The other day he asked me when I was going to invite him over and I said never you have a girlfriend and made it clear to me we are just friends. He said to me that he wished he never said that. I just don't get it. I don't know if he's playing with my head. In my mind I want him to like me because he has my heart. I really enjoy his company I just don't know what he wants from me. I don't know what to do.
VictorM's advice:
You're counting on him being so into you that he dumps this girlfriend he supposedly loves to be with you. And you'll live happily ever after... until he cheats on you, that is. What else do you expect from a guy who cheats on his girlfriend and flirts with another girl?
If you get him, you lose! You'll be on your way to being an unhappy woman with some cheating man.
What he wants from you is simple: his ego inflated (not to mention other parts of his body). He toys with you because he can, yet another sign of a man you should avoid.
Labels: cheat, cheater, coworker, flirt
