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Friday, February 23, 2007
My ex-boyfriend and I are friends
Lianne, 20, from Belize asks:
My ex-boyfriend and I are friends, it's been a year and a half since he ended our 2 year relationship. We see a lot more of each other lately and he recently asked me "what's up with us?". We are at a point of "taking it slow" or "working it out" or "see where this leads"... I understand why he is confused and apprehensive about getting back together. What do you think?
VictorM's answer:
He ended the relationship for a reason. What do you think changed that makes you now the one he wants to be with? Face it, he hangs around because he hasn't found another yet. You aren't "taking it slow" or "working things out"; you're stuck and you're going nowhere.
Exes are evil. The sooner you're out of each other's life the better.
My ex-boyfriend and I are friends, it's been a year and a half since he ended our 2 year relationship. We see a lot more of each other lately and he recently asked me "what's up with us?". We are at a point of "taking it slow" or "working it out" or "see where this leads"... I understand why he is confused and apprehensive about getting back together. What do you think?
VictorM's answer:
He ended the relationship for a reason. What do you think changed that makes you now the one he wants to be with? Face it, he hangs around because he hasn't found another yet. You aren't "taking it slow" or "working things out"; you're stuck and you're going nowhere.
Exes are evil. The sooner you're out of each other's life the better.
Labels: advice, answer, dating, ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, exes
I'm friends with an ex of mine
diana, 22, from wa asks:
I'm friends with an ex of mine. He recently asked me why I don't date. We both haven't dated for a couple of years. When I told him that I'm commitment phobic then he starts to argue with me about it. Trying to prove I'm not. He eventually stopped trying to disprove it. He went on to ask what I'd say to him caring about me before and never stopped caring. That he wanted to get back together and have a serious relationship. I told him no. To which he then said he only asked to see my response. Then Friday he just messaged me to see why I had a good night the night before. I told him that I had guys buy me drinks at my friend's birthday celebration at P.J. pockets casino. Which I've never had happen before so to me it was a good night. He just said sweet then stopped chatting. I'm curious, what's going on here with him? Seeing he tries to say the feelings gone and argues over stupid things like he did when we dated. I do not have feelings for him yet he deludes himself as him being the real reason why I'm single.
VictorM's advice:
What's going on? He would like to get back with you, that's what's going on. Maybe he still has feelings for you maybe he doesn't; his typical male ego is the one in control here. For him to accept you that don't care for him would send him into a virtual depression.
Exes are evil. The sooner you're out of each other's life the better.
I'm friends with an ex of mine. He recently asked me why I don't date. We both haven't dated for a couple of years. When I told him that I'm commitment phobic then he starts to argue with me about it. Trying to prove I'm not. He eventually stopped trying to disprove it. He went on to ask what I'd say to him caring about me before and never stopped caring. That he wanted to get back together and have a serious relationship. I told him no. To which he then said he only asked to see my response. Then Friday he just messaged me to see why I had a good night the night before. I told him that I had guys buy me drinks at my friend's birthday celebration at P.J. pockets casino. Which I've never had happen before so to me it was a good night. He just said sweet then stopped chatting. I'm curious, what's going on here with him? Seeing he tries to say the feelings gone and argues over stupid things like he did when we dated. I do not have feelings for him yet he deludes himself as him being the real reason why I'm single.
VictorM's advice:
What's going on? He would like to get back with you, that's what's going on. Maybe he still has feelings for you maybe he doesn't; his typical male ego is the one in control here. For him to accept you that don't care for him would send him into a virtual depression.
Exes are evil. The sooner you're out of each other's life the better.
Labels: advice, dating, ex-boyfriend, exes
