Wednesday, April 11, 2007
Madison likes her friend
Madison, 14, from kapaa, asks:
Ok.So I really like my friend. I told his sister that i like him and she said he likes me back. Then, i told his sister to tell him that i also like him. Then one time, we were playing truth or dare. I asked him who he liked and he said "you haha nah just joking." so then he asked me who i liked and i said "you". SO then we sat there 4 10 awkward minutes. So then whenever im around him, it seems like hes flirting with me. He knows i like him and i know he likes me, so why doesnt he ask me out?does he just not like me anymore? HELP PLEASE!
VictorM's answer:
Of course he likes you but now that he knows you like him, and he's sure you'd say yes if he asked you out, it's not as much fun anymore. Guys like a challenge. You're not one to him.
So... next time, don't tell anybody, much less his big-mouth sister, that you like a guy. For now, ask him out yourself. You've got nothing to lose.
Ok.So I really like my friend. I told his sister that i like him and she said he likes me back. Then, i told his sister to tell him that i also like him. Then one time, we were playing truth or dare. I asked him who he liked and he said "you haha nah just joking." so then he asked me who i liked and i said "you". SO then we sat there 4 10 awkward minutes. So then whenever im around him, it seems like hes flirting with me. He knows i like him and i know he likes me, so why doesnt he ask me out?does he just not like me anymore? HELP PLEASE!
VictorM's answer:
Of course he likes you but now that he knows you like him, and he's sure you'd say yes if he asked you out, it's not as much fun anymore. Guys like a challenge. You're not one to him.
So... next time, don't tell anybody, much less his big-mouth sister, that you like a guy. For now, ask him out yourself. You've got nothing to lose.
Labels: asking a guy out, likes a friend
Thursday, March 29, 2007
How to get the ball rolling on dating?
stacy, 22, from louisiana asks:
I'm interested in this guy and according to his body language he's interested in me. How do I get the ball rolling to dating?
VictorM's advice:
First, make sure he's not attached already. Second, reading body language on a guy can be dangerous business (and if you have poor eyesight, be careful -- you could get poked in the eye). Third, you odds improve if you arrange for situations where you're alone with him. This way, the chances for both of you to give strong signals to each other improve.
For example, mention that you'd like to see the movie "300" but that none of your friends want to go and you don't want to go alone. If he volunteers, make it a movie date followed by dinner. Then you can dazzle him with your wit and cleavage. That's just one example.
But whatever your preferences, find ways to be alone with him (pack rubbers just in case things go better than expected).
I'm interested in this guy and according to his body language he's interested in me. How do I get the ball rolling to dating?
VictorM's advice:
First, make sure he's not attached already. Second, reading body language on a guy can be dangerous business (and if you have poor eyesight, be careful -- you could get poked in the eye). Third, you odds improve if you arrange for situations where you're alone with him. This way, the chances for both of you to give strong signals to each other improve.
For example, mention that you'd like to see the movie "300" but that none of your friends want to go and you don't want to go alone. If he volunteers, make it a movie date followed by dinner. Then you can dazzle him with your wit and cleavage. That's just one example.
But whatever your preferences, find ways to be alone with him (pack rubbers just in case things go better than expected).
Labels: asking a guy out, body language
Saturday, January 20, 2007
After Christmas
Tara, 20, from Canada asks:
So I met this really sweet guy on a dating website. I have done it lots of times before, no big deal. Turns out we got to the same school. We see each other around all the time, but both of us are really shy people and neither of us actually have the guts to say anything. lol. He sent me an e-mail a little while ago and this is what he said: "hey i was wonderin if u wanted to actually meet eachother sometime over xmas or there after cause i really do want to get to know more about you so this is about the only way cause we are both nervous ppl, lolso what do u think?" It's after Christmas now and he hasn't said anything about meeting me. He still talks to be like he did before. I don't know if I should get on his case about it or just leave him alone and continue talking to him like usual. I have had a tendency in the past to scare guys away, with talking to them TOO much...kinda smothering, you get the idea. I really like this guy and I want to do it right this time. Can you give me some advice?
VictorM's advice:
I think a simple: "Hey, it's after Christmas. Still want to get together?" message seems appropriate. Go for it.
And don't worry about the smothering. It usually only happens if the guy is not the right guy for you. If he is, chances is he'll like the attention you give him.
So I met this really sweet guy on a dating website. I have done it lots of times before, no big deal. Turns out we got to the same school. We see each other around all the time, but both of us are really shy people and neither of us actually have the guts to say anything. lol. He sent me an e-mail a little while ago and this is what he said: "hey i was wonderin if u wanted to actually meet eachother sometime over xmas or there after cause i really do want to get to know more about you so this is about the only way cause we are both nervous ppl, lolso what do u think?" It's after Christmas now and he hasn't said anything about meeting me. He still talks to be like he did before. I don't know if I should get on his case about it or just leave him alone and continue talking to him like usual. I have had a tendency in the past to scare guys away, with talking to them TOO much...kinda smothering, you get the idea. I really like this guy and I want to do it right this time. Can you give me some advice?
VictorM's advice:
I think a simple: "Hey, it's after Christmas. Still want to get together?" message seems appropriate. Go for it.
And don't worry about the smothering. It usually only happens if the guy is not the right guy for you. If he is, chances is he'll like the attention you give him.
Labels: advice, answer, asking a guy out
Time for the first date
Marlene, 39, from Washington, DC asks:
I really like this guy I volunteer with. I noticed him on the first day. I have been there for a year and have caught him noticing me and trying to get my attention too. We just started talking. How much longer before we actually date?
VictorM's advice:
As long as it takes one of you to make the first move and ask the other one out. What are you waiting for?
I really like this guy I volunteer with. I noticed him on the first day. I have been there for a year and have caught him noticing me and trying to get my attention too. We just started talking. How much longer before we actually date?
VictorM's advice:
As long as it takes one of you to make the first move and ask the other one out. What are you waiting for?
Labels: advice, asking a guy out, dating
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
He chose the color I had picked
Jacq, 17, from Mass. asks:
I have been friends with a guy for about 4 months now. I would say we have grown close, but not to the point where we call each other every week and hang out... we have totally different friends, well we only have two friends in common. He is in my art class and yesterday he sat next to me and he chose the color I had picked (there is only two of that color and another girl took it already. Then when I switched colors to finish another part of my project he looked kinda sad and he said. "You switched colors? Now I wanna use black." When we talk he looks right at me and he always tries to include me in his conversations and he always asks my opinions. I really like him now, he makes me laugh and feel good. But, I need to know if he likes me too before I start to like him where if he says "No." I will be devastated.
VictorM's advice:
Oh, quit being such a wuss! No one ever knows for sure if their heart will be broken or not. You have to take chances! You will not be devastated if he says no, and even if you are, you will recover. It'll be easier to deal with rejection than with regret. This I can assure you of!
Besides, this boy likes you.
I have been friends with a guy for about 4 months now. I would say we have grown close, but not to the point where we call each other every week and hang out... we have totally different friends, well we only have two friends in common. He is in my art class and yesterday he sat next to me and he chose the color I had picked (there is only two of that color and another girl took it already. Then when I switched colors to finish another part of my project he looked kinda sad and he said. "You switched colors? Now I wanna use black." When we talk he looks right at me and he always tries to include me in his conversations and he always asks my opinions. I really like him now, he makes me laugh and feel good. But, I need to know if he likes me too before I start to like him where if he says "No." I will be devastated.
VictorM's advice:
Oh, quit being such a wuss! No one ever knows for sure if their heart will be broken or not. You have to take chances! You will not be devastated if he says no, and even if you are, you will recover. It'll be easier to deal with rejection than with regret. This I can assure you of!
Besides, this boy likes you.
Labels: advice, answer, asking a guy out, rejection
Unavailable guy
Rose, 20, from Minnesota asks:
I'm wondering if there is any appropriate way of telling an unavailable guy that you like him? I'm probably completely wrong, but I was thinking of emailing him, saying that hypothetically if he ever wanted to have lunch with me, I'd be thrilled. At this point, he isn't aware that I know he's dating someone, so I thought that wouldn't sound like I'm trying to break them up. Am I out of my mind, or is it possible to tactfully tell him I'm interested? If so, what should I do next?=) Rose
VictorM's advice:
He may be unavailable but he may also not be very serious about the girl. It's not up to you to assume that he is; it's up to him to tell you. So, go ahead and ask him for lunch, a movie, or anything you know he's interested in. Even if he's not willing to date you now because of another girl, that could change down the road. You really have nothing to lose. So... make a move.
I'm wondering if there is any appropriate way of telling an unavailable guy that you like him? I'm probably completely wrong, but I was thinking of emailing him, saying that hypothetically if he ever wanted to have lunch with me, I'd be thrilled. At this point, he isn't aware that I know he's dating someone, so I thought that wouldn't sound like I'm trying to break them up. Am I out of my mind, or is it possible to tactfully tell him I'm interested? If so, what should I do next?=) Rose
VictorM's advice:
He may be unavailable but he may also not be very serious about the girl. It's not up to you to assume that he is; it's up to him to tell you. So, go ahead and ask him for lunch, a movie, or anything you know he's interested in. Even if he's not willing to date you now because of another girl, that could change down the road. You really have nothing to lose. So... make a move.
Labels: advice, answer, asking a guy out
Sunday, December 17, 2006
How do you ask a guy out
Marissa, 13, from Ohio asks:
How do you ask a guy out when he already knows you like him?
VictorM's advice:
Say to him: I'm going to the [mall, movies, ball game, bowling, ice skating, video arcade... something you know he likes], would you like to come along?
If he wants to be with you he'll say yes; if he's not interested, he turns down the event, not you.
But lower your expectations. More often than not, when a boy KNOWS you like him, he tends to get cocky and play games. In the future, try not to let him know how you feel; make him guess.
How do you ask a guy out when he already knows you like him?
VictorM's advice:
Say to him: I'm going to the [mall, movies, ball game, bowling, ice skating, video arcade... something you know he likes], would you like to come along?
If he wants to be with you he'll say yes; if he's not interested, he turns down the event, not you.
But lower your expectations. More often than not, when a boy KNOWS you like him, he tends to get cocky and play games. In the future, try not to let him know how you feel; make him guess.
Labels: asking a guy out
