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Saturday, July 29, 2006
Koroleva wants me
Woohoo!!! Koroleva wants me! I got this email, and I'm sure I'm the only one who got it because I'm special. :)
I wonder how many guys will fall for this. I'm tempted to write back just to see where this leads... nah... I'm too lazy for that. But hey, if it's your thing, go ahead and let us know what happened.
Tags: dating, singles
Hello my new friend!!!My name is Anastasia. I have decided to try to find my happiness and my only man through the Internet. It for the first time for me. As in RussianFederation I could not find the man with which I could create the family.I very long time was not solved on this step, but I could overcome it and now, in a place absolutely new for me and not usual for me. I have decidedto write to you. I hope you do not think of me poorly because I'm as a girl the first write to you to unfamiliar man and want will get acquainted with you. I want to tell you some words about me. I live in Moscow city. I'm 28 years old. I have a higher education. I have finished the Moscow State University. I live alone in the one-room apartment. I do not have any children and I have never been married. The family values, good formation and education and happiness of my future children are on the first place for me. To find the happiness I am ready to leave Moscow and move to live in other country. If you are interested in correspondence with me, please write to me on this e-mail: eko-manager@moscowlights.com I have a very small limit access to the Internet and for me to receive your letter on this my e-mail easyer and cheaper. I with huge impatience wait your letter and hope to hear from you soon. Koroleva Anastasia.
I wonder how many guys will fall for this. I'm tempted to write back just to see where this leads... nah... I'm too lazy for that. But hey, if it's your thing, go ahead and let us know what happened.
Tags: dating, singles
Monday, July 24, 2006
My freakin' expectations!
Tags: dating, singles
I was talking to a girlfriend a few days ago about my frustration with the male persuasion and then she point-blank asked me what I can tolerate, put up with, deal with. She also reminded me that if I'm dating computer programmers, they're not well known for their social graces. Not only that, they could have other social issues.
A former student of mine has Asperger's Syndrome, which is basically all the social aspects of Autism. He doesn't transition well, he has a hard time reading other people's social cues (especially body language), is obsessive about certain subjects, and has hypersensitivity to scents, lighting and food. I'm starting to wonder if these guys are somewhat like him.
Do I expect too much? Is a phone call so important? Maybe the normal "rules" don't apply to geek dating.
I was talking to a girlfriend a few days ago about my frustration with the male persuasion and then she point-blank asked me what I can tolerate, put up with, deal with. She also reminded me that if I'm dating computer programmers, they're not well known for their social graces. Not only that, they could have other social issues.
A former student of mine has Asperger's Syndrome, which is basically all the social aspects of Autism. He doesn't transition well, he has a hard time reading other people's social cues (especially body language), is obsessive about certain subjects, and has hypersensitivity to scents, lighting and food. I'm starting to wonder if these guys are somewhat like him.
Do I expect too much? Is a phone call so important? Maybe the normal "rules" don't apply to geek dating.
Monday, July 10, 2006
When is it time to date?
Tags: dating, singles
One of the guys I'm dating is a widower. He lost his wife last October and I wonder if he's dating too soon. I've done my best not to bring her up, on the advice of a friend who is a widower herself. Yet when we talk, many things remind him of her. I don't mind that he needs someone to talk to about her. But by the same token, I'm not really interested in being someone's therapist.
So when is it time to date when you've lost your significant other? My uncle is on wife number 4. His first wife died 2 weeks after they married in a tragic accident. He divorced his second wife, and his third wife died from a terminal illness. He started dating a few months after wife number 3 died and was remarried in less than a year. While his former in-laws were appalled, I wonder that he'd spent so much time taking care of her, and that towards the end she wasn't there mentally anymore anyways.
I don't think there really is a time when it's right to start dating again. Even dating too early isn't a problem as long as both parties realize that it potentially is too early. Let's face it, someone has to be the first date. When you're a widower, no one's going to live up to your former spouse. But it doesn't mean you can't be happy again.
One of the guys I'm dating is a widower. He lost his wife last October and I wonder if he's dating too soon. I've done my best not to bring her up, on the advice of a friend who is a widower herself. Yet when we talk, many things remind him of her. I don't mind that he needs someone to talk to about her. But by the same token, I'm not really interested in being someone's therapist.
So when is it time to date when you've lost your significant other? My uncle is on wife number 4. His first wife died 2 weeks after they married in a tragic accident. He divorced his second wife, and his third wife died from a terminal illness. He started dating a few months after wife number 3 died and was remarried in less than a year. While his former in-laws were appalled, I wonder that he'd spent so much time taking care of her, and that towards the end she wasn't there mentally anymore anyways.
I don't think there really is a time when it's right to start dating again. Even dating too early isn't a problem as long as both parties realize that it potentially is too early. Let's face it, someone has to be the first date. When you're a widower, no one's going to live up to your former spouse. But it doesn't mean you can't be happy again.
Wednesday, July 05, 2006
Profile Follies
Tags: dating, singles
I read a lot of dating profiles and I can tell you there are things that drive me, and most women, insane. Let me list them for you:
1. Proper spelling and grammar is of the utmost importance. Don't type like some brain-dead AOLer LiKe tHiS, and don't spell lik dis cuz u think ur cool and shit. I can't tell you how many guys I DON'T message because I'm turned off by their poor use of the English language.
2. Please don't tell me how you don't want a woman who plays games. Yes, there are cruel bitches out there, but you're assuming we're all bitches. Most of us don't like guys who play games either.
3. I'm really grossed out when a guy posts a picture of his shirt-less body. Eww. Double eww! Guys like that look self-infatuated, and like they're looking for just one thing.
4. Some profiles have you list your top favorite things. You don't have to mention sex, that's a given.
5. I love when a guy posts pictures of him with his friends, or with his dog, or even just around the house. I don't know why guys have to post what car they drive. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't bother me. So please post pictures of your real life, but make sure there's at least one close up so we can see your gorgeous face. Please post one without a baseball cap or sunglasses so we know who we're talking to.
6. And please say SOMETHING in your profile. Don't just fill out the bare minimum. The more you say, the more you look like you actually care about finding a mate. Profiles that are empty or written sloppily show how little you care. When there's no effort, I don't make the effort to get to know you. I hate when someone writes ASK ME, under the statement about who you are. I am not going to ask you, you're asking me to do all the work here.
7. If you want kids, say so, if you don't, then don't string us along by saying unsure, or N/A. There's nothing wrong with knowing you're not a breeder. However, the breeders among us would like to know if we're barking up the wrong tree.
That is all for now. I bet you thought I was going to do a top ten. Even I don't have stamina enough for that! Good luck profiling and dating.
I read a lot of dating profiles and I can tell you there are things that drive me, and most women, insane. Let me list them for you:
1. Proper spelling and grammar is of the utmost importance. Don't type like some brain-dead AOLer LiKe tHiS, and don't spell lik dis cuz u think ur cool and shit. I can't tell you how many guys I DON'T message because I'm turned off by their poor use of the English language.
2. Please don't tell me how you don't want a woman who plays games. Yes, there are cruel bitches out there, but you're assuming we're all bitches. Most of us don't like guys who play games either.
3. I'm really grossed out when a guy posts a picture of his shirt-less body. Eww. Double eww! Guys like that look self-infatuated, and like they're looking for just one thing.
4. Some profiles have you list your top favorite things. You don't have to mention sex, that's a given.
5. I love when a guy posts pictures of him with his friends, or with his dog, or even just around the house. I don't know why guys have to post what car they drive. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't bother me. So please post pictures of your real life, but make sure there's at least one close up so we can see your gorgeous face. Please post one without a baseball cap or sunglasses so we know who we're talking to.
6. And please say SOMETHING in your profile. Don't just fill out the bare minimum. The more you say, the more you look like you actually care about finding a mate. Profiles that are empty or written sloppily show how little you care. When there's no effort, I don't make the effort to get to know you. I hate when someone writes ASK ME, under the statement about who you are. I am not going to ask you, you're asking me to do all the work here.
7. If you want kids, say so, if you don't, then don't string us along by saying unsure, or N/A. There's nothing wrong with knowing you're not a breeder. However, the breeders among us would like to know if we're barking up the wrong tree.
That is all for now. I bet you thought I was going to do a top ten. Even I don't have stamina enough for that! Good luck profiling and dating.
Saturday, July 01, 2006
Dating services: will they go free of charge?
We got this email a few weeks back but it got lost in the inbox. I think this was in response to the cost of online dating services and whether these services should be free. I visited Mark's website and if you're interested in online dating services and related topics, pay his site a visit.
Tags: dating, singles
I doubt eHarmony will ever go free. Yahoo Personals probably considered it but decided against it, for now. The logic goes, if you're paying for the service you're more committed to the process. What do you think? Plentyoffish.com is growing like crazy. OKCupid also. These are the top free dating sites.
Mark Brooks
onlinepersonalswatch.com
Tags: dating, singles
