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Wednesday, March 07, 2007
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Job or Marriage?
Rose, 22
Groblersdal
Asks:
I'm a student doing a practical Year in Agriculture, I have the opportunity to walk into a good job after I graduate, but I'm also in love with a man 250km away, that wants to get married next year. I'm confused. What do I do?
Lee's Thoughts:
Are there no jobs where your man is? I'm confused.
I think it is blatantly obvious if you WANT to marry someone. If your job opportunities are better than his, why doesn't he move? Someone is going to have to sacrifice something if you are going to be together. Is either of you ready to do that?
Groblersdal
Asks:
I'm a student doing a practical Year in Agriculture, I have the opportunity to walk into a good job after I graduate, but I'm also in love with a man 250km away, that wants to get married next year. I'm confused. What do I do?
Lee's Thoughts:
Are there no jobs where your man is? I'm confused.
I think it is blatantly obvious if you WANT to marry someone. If your job opportunities are better than his, why doesn't he move? Someone is going to have to sacrifice something if you are going to be together. Is either of you ready to do that?
I Want to Break Up
Kelly, 16
Asks:
My boyfriend is jealous and he doesn't want me to have male friends or anything to do with them. He sometimes gets attitudes with me about little things. I don't know...I want to break up with him, but I'm scared of his reaction and what he will do.
Lee's Thoughts:
You should definitely NOT break up with him. You should definitely stay with him and have no guy (or other) friends that he disapproves of. Its HIS RIGHT to tell you who you should be friends with. You should listen to every word he says and be sure you act only in the specific way that he wants you to. You should be quiet and loving and faithful and hopefully he'll propose so that you can be married to this wonderful, generous, loving man and have this easy, dictated life for the rest of your days.....
(ahem...if anyone did NOT catch the sarcasm...I apologize for being so vague)
For my NON-sarcastic answer....This guy is scum. You can stay with him if you really want, but then you can never complain about him ever, because it was your decision to torture yourself with his insanity.
If you are truly fearful for your safety and he is truly a crackpot that would do something drastic because a girl doesn't want to be with him, be sure to tell your parents, tell your friends, tell a guidance counselor, tell SOME responsible adult that you are planning on breaking up with him and are concerned about his reaction.
Otherwise, who gives a flying potato what he will "do" or what his "reaction" will be???????
Get on with your life girl!!
Asks:
My boyfriend is jealous and he doesn't want me to have male friends or anything to do with them. He sometimes gets attitudes with me about little things. I don't know...I want to break up with him, but I'm scared of his reaction and what he will do.
Lee's Thoughts:
You should definitely NOT break up with him. You should definitely stay with him and have no guy (or other) friends that he disapproves of. Its HIS RIGHT to tell you who you should be friends with. You should listen to every word he says and be sure you act only in the specific way that he wants you to. You should be quiet and loving and faithful and hopefully he'll propose so that you can be married to this wonderful, generous, loving man and have this easy, dictated life for the rest of your days.....
(ahem...if anyone did NOT catch the sarcasm...I apologize for being so vague)
For my NON-sarcastic answer....This guy is scum. You can stay with him if you really want, but then you can never complain about him ever, because it was your decision to torture yourself with his insanity.
If you are truly fearful for your safety and he is truly a crackpot that would do something drastic because a girl doesn't want to be with him, be sure to tell your parents, tell your friends, tell a guidance counselor, tell SOME responsible adult that you are planning on breaking up with him and are concerned about his reaction.
Otherwise, who gives a flying potato what he will "do" or what his "reaction" will be???????
Get on with your life girl!!
