Agirl, 16
Minnesota
Asks:

I like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. He has been giving me signals tho' and I heard him say that if they dump each other, he's going to ask me out. My question is, does he like me? Why would he say something like that if he wasn't planning to break up with her?

Lee's Thoughts:

I don't know if you've noticed this, but high school relationships last about 30 seconds each...a full five minutes if you are REALLY lucky. So, just hang on until lunchtime and they will probably be broken up.

I'm sure he does like you. Just remember if you ever date him, that he had a wandering eye while in a relationship before. He'll have a wandering eye again.

kcube, 35
Office
Asks:

I have crush on my 22 year co-worker who recently joined 3 months ago. It all started when she began hitching a ride home with me. For the 1st few session I treated her like a normal co-worker. The more I get to know the more I am attracted to her. It took me a week to overcome all of my insecurities before I dared even to asked her out.

Finally, I was able to sum all my courage and call her to tell her that I had very strong feelings for her. Unfortunately, she told me that is already attached. Now do not know how I can still face her at the office normally. This feeling for her is so difficult to flush out of my system since this is the first lady in so many years that I have had the courage to ask out. I still have the silly thought that I can wait some time maybe her relationship won't work, so that I may have a chance. How do get her out of the mind? Will a girl accept another man courtship if she only attached for a few months? I am emotional wreck now.

Lee's Thoughts:

It is totally classless to go after a girl AFTER she tells you that a) she's not interested and b) she has a boyfriend. Respect yourself enough to lay off. Relationships at work are very difficult and almost always frowned upon by management. So, you probably are better off.

Yes, you can always wait until/if she breaks up with this guy, but what kind of life is that? There are more fish in the sea my friend. She was attractive due to proximity, not because she is THE ONE.

Keep looking and keep up that courage. You did a great job giving her a call, now you know you can do it. Call up another girl you want to go out with. Call up two or three. You're a free man. Have fun!!

Christina, 16
Royal City
Asks:

What would you do if a guy hung up on you and didn't call back?

Lee's Thoughts:

That would depend on what was said before the hang up. Was I being an ass? (totally possible). Was he? Was it an argument? Was he being mauled by a bear and had to hang up?

Don't think about the hang up. Think about what happened before the hang up. Then decide what you need to doo.

confused, 15
Joliet
asks:

Ok, I am 15 and I like this guy. All my friends say he likes me, but I don't know. He just broke up with his girlfriend, but before he did, a girl asked him if he liked me. He didn't say no, but he said, "I have a girlfriend." He looks at me differently than he does to other girls and when we do get the chance to talk, we talk the whole period.

Today since he was dropping tech class, my friend asked him for a hug. He hugged her like he didn't want to (he used one hand) but when I asked him for one he was like, "Yeah you can have a hug" in a happy way (and hugged me with two hands). I don't know if he likes me. Please help.

Lee's Thoughts:

He's nice to you. He enjoys hugging you. He didn't say he DIDN'T like you. He talks to you for the whole period. What more evidence do you need? HE LIKES YOU!

He also wasn't going after other girls when he had a girlfriend, so he's a somewhat decent guy.

Go for it girl!!