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Sarah, 15, in California: I have liked this guy for awhile now and he always flirts with me. A few nights ago he sat next to me and told me that he likes me. He made out with me and we exchange numbers. Now he wont text me back or even talk to me. Whats up???

VictorM: A girl whom a guy likes for the purposes of kissing and scoring once isn’t necessarily the girl a guy will want to see on a regular basis. Chances are that having the nerve (or the balls) to make out with you was the … Continue Reading

nikki, 19, in uk: so there is this guy who i see whenever i go to the dentist, he’s the assistant. i have a number of appointments so i have gotten to see him a number of times. every time he talks to me he is always smiling and asking questions about my studies and general stuff. he also makes jokes and tries to look big by showing all he knows. if he really liked me he would have asked me out by now, rite? or is he afraid he is going to jeopardize his job and therefore waiting for … Continue Reading

Most men expect to have fun in a relationship. If the partner turns into a lecturer, a middle-school teacher, a nagging mom… well, what’s the point of being in a relationship? Most guys will bail out. Sounds like you pushed your guy too far.

Given that you’ve been seeing each other for only a few months, these kinds of break-ups are most often followed by reconciliation. So, I’d give him time to get over it — guys need a few hours or days, at the most — and then they are ready to talk again.

Give him a call, say you’re sorry … Continue Reading

Kazuri, 22, in UK: What exactly is a no strings attached relation to a guy especially if your involved in a close nit friends group…? We both have agreed and it is EXACTLY what i want at the moment.

Now, I wished to know how bad of a blow is it for a man unable to get an erection and its the first time he is sleeping with a woman. Would they apologise for it and try and satisfy her soon as possible?? I dont know what men go through if this happens… Please do advise.

VictorM: “No strings attached” is just … Continue Reading

KrazyKaylie, 15, in USA: Hi there. so, a while ago I found out (via 2/3 of the school–okay, so I might be a little oblivious :/) that the guy I liked for a while liked me back. That would be a good thing if school wasn’t out. Oh, and did I mention that he never knew I liked him? then today, I logged into facebook to see that he’s hanging out with this totally gorgeous girl and ok so he has told me before that they are just friends but I keep thinking that he might be just saying that … Continue Reading

Amy, 25, in Canada: I have been dating my boyfriend since january and exclusively since end of marchish.  we have been taking things slow which i am absolutely on board with but he is a fairly stereotypical man and we don’t openly talk about our feelings (am also ABSOLUTELY on board with this).

His parents were in town and i met them over lunch for the first time today. seeing him in a familial setting was really great and my feelings for him grew exponentially.  can i take the fact that he includes me with his friends and has now introduced … Continue Reading

Anna, 15, in Alaska, USA: What should I do?
I finally managed to tell this guy that I like him–it was the most dangerous/nerve-racking thing I’ve ever done before in my life. His response was: “I don’t really want a relationship right now. I’ve been going through a really tough time with relationships for the past two years, but I’ll think about it…”
His best friend said that it’s because he has family problems, but he’s never had a girlfriend before.
Should I take that as a no? Or is it because it isn’t the right time?

VictorM: You should take it as a … Continue Reading

Ari, 29, in dayton, ohio: With an older guy who initiated the relationship. He fell in love with me after a month in a half. He asks no questions about me or my family. But he wants my family to know about him. He really doesn’t spend much time with me unless I ask. He told me he has a high sex drive and brags about the sex we have but we only have sex like once or twice a week. He answers some of my calls and text messages hours later. I really care a lot about him and … Continue Reading

lilac, 26, in india: well, i liked a guy for nearly 11 years..well i’m 26 now. We were classmates in high school..it actually started with kiddish teasing by friends..and due to some misunderstandings i had bad fight with him… And i realized later i had accused him wrongly…I wanted to apologise to him …but his close friend stopped me saying that he really hates me and would fire me if i even tried to speak with him.. After that i really got confused about him because he didn’t seem to be the kind of person that his friend had told … Continue Reading

For your very kind words.

And say thanks for me to Maryanne, stacey, hannah, and sandy too. ;)

Michelle, 27, in Boston: I found out from a friend that her coworker (at her bar) and I had mutual crushes on one another. We’ve had some great conversations in person that have enabled us to get a sense of who the other is, and we get long very well!  One night after a bit of flirting I asked for his phone (which he gave to me) and I put my number in.  He’s text me twice, briefly, and kissed my check and flirted with me the other day when I was at their restaurant, yet he STILL hasn’t asked … Continue Reading

what is he playing at, 21, in usa: This guy and i met last year but never really connected. he and i met again 5 months ago and since that time there has been a lot of texting from him and lunch dates and study dates. the problem is….he has a gf, but he doesn’t seem to spend much time with her or have a lot in common. we have not gotten physical, but he is very flirty and touchy. i am starting to get attached to this guy, but what is he playing at with me? so far i … Continue Reading

AMY, 30, in OHIO: Hi Victor its amy from OHIO again, i had the question about working with the guy for 4 months.  Thanks for the advice. I think you are dead on. It should have been obvious when he never tried to get to know me outside work.  My question now is how do I cool things down between us without seeming like a emotionally unstable bitch. lol. When he flirts i’m right in it with him, but now i know better and i don’t want to be his stupid game any longer.  When he turns on the heat … Continue Reading

Allie, in Ohio: Hello; so here’s my question – what is up with my ex boyfriend?  He recently broke up with his live-in lady and she finally moved out.  He has been talking to me A LOT lately; throughout the whole ordeal.  We have known each other for around 5 years now (dated the first 8 months or so of knowing each other, and have kept in touch as friends ever since).  We broke up mainly because of distance (he moved to a different city).  So, here’s the thing:  We’ve lived in the same city again now for almost 2 … Continue Reading

Katie, 20, in SD: What does it mean if a guy you have had a thing with sees you leave a party with another guy and asks you about it the next day? Does it mean he is jealous?

VictorM: He could be jealous but asking the question just means he’s curious. It’s a stretch to assume he’s jealous.

Tia, 25, in NY: There is this really annoying guy who feels the need to comment constantly on what I am wearing and telling me what he thinks about it. It’s not in the complimentary way either, he criticizes and always finds something to find fault with. I’ve never known anyone to do this, let alone a guy who is supposed to not care about such stuff, let alone be vocal about it when it’s unsolicited. He’ll just randomly (and out of context) comment on something I am wearing and tell me he doesn’t like it. I asked him once … Continue Reading

Angela, 20, in Atlanta: So I have been talking to this guy for about 5 months through texts and chats.  We’ve gone on a date once and hung out a few times but he goes to school in another city.  I don’t know if I am ready to commit or even continue talking through texts. He is nice but his constant texts sometimes get annoying to ask me how I am doing.  What should I do?

VictorM: What do yo mean by “I don’t know if I am ready to commit”? Of course you know! You find his texts annoying, … Continue Reading

E, 23, in NEW YORK: So, I never thought it would resort to seeking advice or some sense of clarity from an online forum but if I don’t get some serious answers, I just might throw myself in front of a bus (JUST KIDDING). I’m a 23 year old female, dating a 29 year old man, since November 2009. Things are absolutely fantastic. We see one another once a day, and probably sleep at one another’s place at least 5 times a week. I guess you could say it’s an exclusive relationship, at least I hope so.. on my part, … Continue Reading

RJ, 15, in CA: hey! its me again haha srry! um well the guy i like broke up with his gf. i’m pretty sure they broke up because of the summer coming up. it’s really confusing now because idk if i should make a move now. he hugs me longer now and looks at me from head to toe and even when i catch him looking at me he still does it then looks away. But if i did make a move id still like to give him sometime after breaking up with his gf as i don’t want to … Continue Reading

Jenn, 19, in Boston, MA: I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for a few months and his birthday is coming up. One of the gifts I bought him is the Iron Gym Total Upper Body Workout Bar. He isn’t in the best shape. Do you think this is a good present or would it make him feel self conscious? Is receiving such a gift from one’s girlfriend offensive? He said he wanted to work out alot this summer so would he enjoy the gift? I really want him to enjoy his birthday and not get the wrong message, should I … Continue Reading