I am an attractive, successful, educated woman

VictorM July 03, 2010 Does he like me?, None 1 Comment

Kristie, 40, in Tampa: I will make this as short as I can, I met Steve 6 months ago, two weeks before my divorce was finalized. The relationship started out as a one night stand then just sex every now and then, but we have stayed in contact on a regular basis. He insisted that we stay friends, I have pushed him away the entire time. I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship being that I had just gotten a divorce, he agreed. Told me I should be out having fun.

Well here we are 6 months later and he wants to move in with me just as friends. We haven’t slept together in 2 months. We have gone out and done things together and the sexual tension is still there. The situation is I need the money and he needs a place to live. He is also helping me finish the remodel on my house (my ex was suppose to but thats not happening).

He is 37, never been married, likes strip clubs and dates the employees. I am an attractive, successful, educated woman who really likes this man but is afraid to let her guard down. I have not been very nice to him up until a few weeks ago (trying to push him away), his comment to me today was “You are finally coming around.” Because I didn’t yell at him for not coming over to my house last night to help me.

He hasn’t moved in yet, I’m still not sure if I should let him.

Thanks,

Kristie

VictorM: It’s amazing to me that merely liking a man can turn a 40 year old, attractive, successful, educated woman into the George Bush of the dating world. (Sorry, I don’t mean to be cruel, I just couldn’t resist the humor. Forgive me).

So let me get this straight: you can’t let your guard down but you’re considering allowing him to live with you? You’re going from keeping him away as a friend to wanting him under the same roof and bedrooms feet away from each other? That makes no sense to me.

What does moving in as a “friend” mean between a couple that started with sex and the guy has been pursuing the woman ever since? No way that friendship is the goal. You put out too easily earlier on and I think he’s counting on enjoying more of that wild side of yours.

Can’t you find someone else to move in with you and, if so inclined, date him for a while? Or be his *cough* friend *cough* living in your respective homes? Sounds much more prudent to do so.

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One Response to “I am an attractive, successful, educated woman”

  1. Kristie said:

    Jul 07, 10 at 11:58 am

    Thanks for your response. You are right though and yes I think he will be waiting for my moments of weakness, which I would love to say aren’t going to happen but you never know!

    Thanks for the George Bush joke, very well put! That is how I have been feeling lately but I am just starting to get my feet back under me after my divorce. It’s funny though, the only guys I seem to attract otherwise are 25 year olds, I know I should be flattered.

    He’s coming over tonight, I think its time we both had a serious discussion. We’ve been dancing around this for too long.

    My other favorite thing, he keeps telling me I am way out of his league.

    Thanks for your help!

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