Saturday, February 06, 2010
I'm sick of this
By: Tara
Age: 28
Question: This probably sounds like an odd question, and it's a slim chance, but I'm only going to give this one last shot before walking away for good.
If there is one trick in the book to win a guy back, long distance, what would it be? We broke up from problems but were still really attracted to each other, and then we had to go long distance. Because I'm not there, he's now dating other girls, and I'm the clingy ex who can't let go. I'm sick of this and want to only give it one more attempt before going full NC. Is there anything at all which can be done to turn a guy's heart back and make him regret giving up a girl. Hoping there is some male 'secret' here that I am not aware of!
VictorM's advice:
No! None!
Clingy ex, long distance, he already has a gf... three strikes and you're out! Your options are zero, none, nil.
Spend your energies on some local guy, but before you do, go to a therapist to deal with the clingy girlfriend issue or the story will repeat many times over.
Age: 28
Question: This probably sounds like an odd question, and it's a slim chance, but I'm only going to give this one last shot before walking away for good.
If there is one trick in the book to win a guy back, long distance, what would it be? We broke up from problems but were still really attracted to each other, and then we had to go long distance. Because I'm not there, he's now dating other girls, and I'm the clingy ex who can't let go. I'm sick of this and want to only give it one more attempt before going full NC. Is there anything at all which can be done to turn a guy's heart back and make him regret giving up a girl. Hoping there is some male 'secret' here that I am not aware of!
VictorM's advice:
No! None!
Clingy ex, long distance, he already has a gf... three strikes and you're out! Your options are zero, none, nil.
Spend your energies on some local guy, but before you do, go to a therapist to deal with the clingy girlfriend issue or the story will repeat many times over.
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There's nothing wrong with still being in love with someone after a breakup. That doesn't make you "clingy." :P That makes you normal!
but if he's started dating other girls? Well, he's playing the field and moving on.
Time for you to move on, too. Think back on the problems you had together. If you did ever get back together, would the problems still be there? Even if you're attracted to each other, it doesn't mean you'd make great partners.
but if he's started dating other girls? Well, he's playing the field and moving on.
Time for you to move on, too. Think back on the problems you had together. If you did ever get back together, would the problems still be there? Even if you're attracted to each other, it doesn't mean you'd make great partners.
# posted by 
: 1:50 AM
: 1:50 AM
tks victor i know dont have to ask a question - lol i usually know the answers to my questions unfortunately - not always though...but just had a guy - long distance - yea i was a heavy chater - but i'm done now with that - long distance just doesn't work and there is no sense trying to make opposite sex friends online either - btw i'm learning my lessons - and u helped answer my question i aint clingy anymore - i luv my space - realized that in first long distance relationship over time - we need other friends of both sexes - there has to be a mutual trust - and if one has a prob with someone hitting on their person they gotta speak out - if the guy cant respect ya he aint worth keeping lol - i sounds harsh but these are things i'm learning - anyhoo just finding it hard to let go of my feelings for this last one...but yea gotta move on and focus on more local guys haha aren't too many around my town btw so goes...dont know if i'm making any sense...
# posted by : 2:44 AM
: 2:44 AM
If the local source is slim for guys, then online is not a bad alternative, but you have to realize that most guys are online to have fun, not to get serious. You need to be cautious and adjust your expectations.
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