By: Miranda
Age: 19
Location: Florida
Question: Hey, thanks for the advice you gave me a while back...I'm a quick learner so when I FINALLY became aware of the issue...I handled it. We're still cool, but not like that. Uhhh...I have another situation now.

I went with some friends out of town and we ended up stopping by one of her friends' house. He was having a get together, so I ended up meeting a few new people. I didn't really try to hard to make friends but all the guys started to gravitate toward me even though they all had girlfriends. The single guy of the bunch asked me to dance. I danced with him and the whole night he sat beside me, talked to me, tried holding my hand, etc. He would occasionally leave and then he would come right back. Basically, whereever I was, less than five minutes later he was there. Just to get some fresh air, I went to another area where his friend was sitting. His friend then pulled me to the side and told me that the guy had been coming back and forth to ask him questions about me. Although he never gave me his number or asked for mine, he kept pulling out his phone and messing with it. The girls and I left and ended up talking to the guys friend again. He asked did he give me his number and I told him no. He then assured me that he'd be hearing from the guy soon. The next day I get a call from the guys friend and he informed me that the guy called him once again asking about me that morning. I gave him my number to give to him. I didnt hear from him til about three days later. I don't think of this as a big deal but between that time the guy's friend kept calling him and asking did he call me yet. He even called me through his girl to ask had he called me. It got even worse because instead of just casually asking since he was the impatient one, he was telling him that I was waiting for his call. After he finally did contact me, I started casual convo a couple times but it was always awkward short convos. I don't want to keep calling and texting him and give off that very unattractive annoying vibe. What I really want to know is:

1. Was he truly interested, could he be shy, or could it just have been a pretty girl impulse thing?

2. How do I let him know without being too harsh or giving him an ultimatum that he's going to have to make some effort to show his interest?

3. What kind of signs should I first look for as to whether it's casual flirting or more?

Thanks :)

VictorM's advice:

I don't think you passed the 24 hour rule with this guy. That is, during the party, and with all the guys giving you attention, you became an attraction. Then he slept on it, and now, while he doesn't want to burn any bridges, he's not as enthusiastic.

The best you can do is go about your life as if nothing happened, because, frankly, nothing happened.

All flirting is casual. All of it, all the time.