Saturday, February 06, 2010
I am lucky to have a wonderful man
By: Lee
Age: 33
Location: canada
Question: Hello, I am lucky to have a wonderful man who highly values teamwork in our relationship of 2 and a half years and treats me and our children great. He is almost ten years older, and at this time has lost one parent last year and will lose the other this year or next. He works six days a week to help provide. He is drained and stressed out to the max. How can I help him deal with everything without adding an extra stress factor? He keeps telling he's fine, handling it and not to worry but I can see he's hurting and I don't know what to do.
VictorM's advice:
You help him deal with all the stress by not helping him! That's right, do NOT help him.
Men like to deal with their own issues, solve their own problems, and hate to depend on others. Just listen, give him back rubs, let him know that you love him and appreciate him, and let him be the strong man he wants to be.
Guys get consolation dealing with things by themselves, working hard, providing for their family, and giving them security. Let him!
Age: 33
Location: canada
Question: Hello, I am lucky to have a wonderful man who highly values teamwork in our relationship of 2 and a half years and treats me and our children great. He is almost ten years older, and at this time has lost one parent last year and will lose the other this year or next. He works six days a week to help provide. He is drained and stressed out to the max. How can I help him deal with everything without adding an extra stress factor? He keeps telling he's fine, handling it and not to worry but I can see he's hurting and I don't know what to do.
VictorM's advice:
You help him deal with all the stress by not helping him! That's right, do NOT help him.
Men like to deal with their own issues, solve their own problems, and hate to depend on others. Just listen, give him back rubs, let him know that you love him and appreciate him, and let him be the strong man he wants to be.
Guys get consolation dealing with things by themselves, working hard, providing for their family, and giving them security. Let him!
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