Saturday, February 06, 2010
Crushing on a guy I had two one night stands with
By: Amy
Age: 35
Location: US
Question: Crushing on a guy I had two one night stands with. The sex was okay but a little awkward since we didn't know each other well (first date) and he seemed insecure (although he introduced me to all his friends). I think I have ruined it, he hasn't called me in a few weeks :(. I see him every week and he is friendly but professional. I really want to try and ask him out again. Did I ruin it? Should I text him or just leave it alone?
VictorM's advice:
I don't know that you ruined it as far as getting serious with him, but you surely didn't help things. However, I don't think you should give up. You should make an effort to go out again, and if he's willing, try to keep your panties on.
Sometimes, after having sex with a girl, a guy backs away because guys think that girls associate sex with being a couple. And since he's not ready for a relationship, he's choosing to stay away so as not to mislead you. If you ask him out and send the message you're not expecting him to marry you, all you're after is enjoying some fun times, he may relax and just enjoy having fun with you. And if he does... anything is still possible after that.
But stop being an easy lay; guys tend to lose interest over time in such types of girls.
Age: 35
Location: US
Question: Crushing on a guy I had two one night stands with. The sex was okay but a little awkward since we didn't know each other well (first date) and he seemed insecure (although he introduced me to all his friends). I think I have ruined it, he hasn't called me in a few weeks :(. I see him every week and he is friendly but professional. I really want to try and ask him out again. Did I ruin it? Should I text him or just leave it alone?
VictorM's advice:
I don't know that you ruined it as far as getting serious with him, but you surely didn't help things. However, I don't think you should give up. You should make an effort to go out again, and if he's willing, try to keep your panties on.
Sometimes, after having sex with a girl, a guy backs away because guys think that girls associate sex with being a couple. And since he's not ready for a relationship, he's choosing to stay away so as not to mislead you. If you ask him out and send the message you're not expecting him to marry you, all you're after is enjoying some fun times, he may relax and just enjoy having fun with you. And if he does... anything is still possible after that.
But stop being an easy lay; guys tend to lose interest over time in such types of girls.
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