Saturday, January 30, 2010
we've constantly flirted for the past 3 years
Submitted on Thursday, January 28, 2010
By: britt
Age: 21
Location: texas
Question: hey hey :) so i just have a question, or what your feelings about this situation might be. Theres this guy i work with, and we've constantly flirted for the past 3 years and it was never anything but a crush for him on my part.. but in the past year, we've been hardcore flirting at work, like he'll tease me and constantly look at me and we'll catch eye contact, and we'll joke, and he'll touch my arm or places more, and stare into my eyes and lips when we talk, and then he makes more comments on how i look (in a good way) :P and he bluntly wants me, like we were all at a work thing, and everyone was drinking and he was constantly hitting on -just- me, in front of his friends and everything.. YET he hasn't asked me out for a date.. or a drink or anything. he imed and texted me randomly a few times,and then recently we talked through texting very sexually/flirty til like 3am.. but still nothing after that. The next day at work we couldn't stop smiling at each other, cause i was amazed that we even talked to each other like that.. :P haha but i'm still flirting as much as i can w/ him at work and everything but idk.. wouldn't you think if he legit wanted me, he would ask me out? or do girls do that now too? It's just he's such an outgoing person, and probably has plenty of girls he could randomly screw, but i'm not like that- so idk if he's like not pursuing anything now because of that? but he's not acting like a jerk, he's still flirting with me hardcore.. ah idk what to think. haha help? thanks :)
VictorM's advice:
You're a fun pastime, a playful toy, a distraction from the mundane, an ego booster. That's all you are. And as long as you keep going along with all the flirting and sex talk, that's all you'll ever be.
You're more fun as a "possibility" than you are as a "sure thing"; more fun as a "I could have her anytime I want her" than as a "been there, done that"; more fun as a job distraction than as an obligation.
Flirting is a thing guys do to boost their ego and please themselves; any notion that a guy flirting is a sign of interest is nothing but female foolery.
By: britt
Age: 21
Location: texas
Question: hey hey :) so i just have a question, or what your feelings about this situation might be. Theres this guy i work with, and we've constantly flirted for the past 3 years and it was never anything but a crush for him on my part.. but in the past year, we've been hardcore flirting at work, like he'll tease me and constantly look at me and we'll catch eye contact, and we'll joke, and he'll touch my arm or places more, and stare into my eyes and lips when we talk, and then he makes more comments on how i look (in a good way) :P and he bluntly wants me, like we were all at a work thing, and everyone was drinking and he was constantly hitting on -just- me, in front of his friends and everything.. YET he hasn't asked me out for a date.. or a drink or anything. he imed and texted me randomly a few times,and then recently we talked through texting very sexually/flirty til like 3am.. but still nothing after that. The next day at work we couldn't stop smiling at each other, cause i was amazed that we even talked to each other like that.. :P haha but i'm still flirting as much as i can w/ him at work and everything but idk.. wouldn't you think if he legit wanted me, he would ask me out? or do girls do that now too? It's just he's such an outgoing person, and probably has plenty of girls he could randomly screw, but i'm not like that- so idk if he's like not pursuing anything now because of that? but he's not acting like a jerk, he's still flirting with me hardcore.. ah idk what to think. haha help? thanks :)
VictorM's advice:
You're a fun pastime, a playful toy, a distraction from the mundane, an ego booster. That's all you are. And as long as you keep going along with all the flirting and sex talk, that's all you'll ever be.
You're more fun as a "possibility" than you are as a "sure thing"; more fun as a "I could have her anytime I want her" than as a "been there, done that"; more fun as a job distraction than as an obligation.
Flirting is a thing guys do to boost their ego and please themselves; any notion that a guy flirting is a sign of interest is nothing but female foolery.
Comments:
Post a Comment
You are not on Ask A Real Guy's Home Page.
Click here to return to Ask A Real Guy's home page where you can submit your own question or read the most recent Questions+Answers.
You are not on Ask A Real Guy's Home Page.
Click here to return to Ask A Real Guy's home page where you can submit your own question or read the most recent Questions+Answers.
