Friday, November 27, 2009
we stare at each other in our class
Submitted on Wednesday, November 25, 2009
By: Kathy
Age: 16
Location: Portland
Question: i have a crush on this guy, we stare at each other in our class. But I really like him. We never talk to each other. He is not shy, he is really loud but when i'm around he becomes all quiet. But i'm shy. He knows i like him and he stares at me. Just last week he found out that i'm a senior and i found out he is a freshman. He usually sits in front of my table at lunch but i saw him moving to other seat with other girls. I got really jealous. I had a really big heart break just before, i really don't wanna get into another one so i just ignored him my next class, and he seemed a bit upset.
Does he think i don't like him cuz he is a freshman ???? and he didn't sit in front of my table at lunch again today.
what do u think??? im totally lost
any advice or any point of views will be helpful
BTW i just turned 16 and i'm a senior if that helps :D
VictorM's advice:
Sorry, Kathy, I can't respond to a personal email address.
Boys around your age are just coming to terms with attraction for females, and it's difficult to focus on just one. But two of the things that holds many guys back, whether they are shy or not, are: a fear of rejection, and a fear of being stuck with one girl while liking another one better. And so what happens more often than not is inaction; the guy stares, daydreams, changes seats, etc. but won't make a move.
In your case, yeah, that you are a senior and he's a freshmen could also be a reason for his inaction.
But, shy as you may be, it really is up to you to push yourself a little. You said you never talk. Well, start by saying hi to him using his name. Saying "Hi, Jim" with a smile goes a long way to encourage a guy to say something. You can't just sit back and wish for things to happen. Take a step, even if it's a baby one.
By: Kathy
Age: 16
Location: Portland
Question: i have a crush on this guy, we stare at each other in our class. But I really like him. We never talk to each other. He is not shy, he is really loud but when i'm around he becomes all quiet. But i'm shy. He knows i like him and he stares at me. Just last week he found out that i'm a senior and i found out he is a freshman. He usually sits in front of my table at lunch but i saw him moving to other seat with other girls. I got really jealous. I had a really big heart break just before, i really don't wanna get into another one so i just ignored him my next class, and he seemed a bit upset.
Does he think i don't like him cuz he is a freshman ???? and he didn't sit in front of my table at lunch again today.
what do u think??? im totally lost
any advice or any point of views will be helpful
BTW i just turned 16 and i'm a senior if that helps :D
VictorM's advice:
Sorry, Kathy, I can't respond to a personal email address.
Boys around your age are just coming to terms with attraction for females, and it's difficult to focus on just one. But two of the things that holds many guys back, whether they are shy or not, are: a fear of rejection, and a fear of being stuck with one girl while liking another one better. And so what happens more often than not is inaction; the guy stares, daydreams, changes seats, etc. but won't make a move.
In your case, yeah, that you are a senior and he's a freshmen could also be a reason for his inaction.
But, shy as you may be, it really is up to you to push yourself a little. You said you never talk. Well, start by saying hi to him using his name. Saying "Hi, Jim" with a smile goes a long way to encourage a guy to say something. You can't just sit back and wish for things to happen. Take a step, even if it's a baby one.
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