Submitted on Friday, August 14, 2009
By: Iveta
Age: 16
Location: Uxbridge
Question: Hi,
The first guy is 18years old, and the second guy is 17years old

I am 16 years old I’ve kind of fell for this boy at this convention that I been to for 3 days ,He was staring at me all the way through when we both was waiting for this coach there was other people there too. He and his friends kept looking at me I was with 2 boys one of them made me laugh and pretty much I was really loud. His eyes were on mine every time I looked he looked it was like woh.He must of got his friends too look at me because all a sudden they were in a crowd and were looking at me. Every time he was talking to his friends he would look at me in the corner of his *eyes* I had 3 people watching him 2 boys and 1 girl, 3 of them claim that he does *Like Me* by the way he was looking at me. While no one was looking neither of his friends he turned his head on the side and made a quick contact to look at me they both did BUT I wasn’t watching my mum saw and while she looked at both they got embarrassed and looked away after. But still the boy kept looking at me, I could see him trying to get close to me and facing me allot while he was talking to his friends and the corner of his eyes says it all. One of my boy mate he was making fun out of him not sure if he saw but he took binoculars And looked at me him through them and his like “ I could see him but I was like oh my you should of not because he was facing me so he can see”. So after he done the same old thing for 3 days on the last day he didn’t look that much on me but as he got off the coach he kind of looked but quickly turned away and went off. He had this meeting and my 2 boy mates No him and one of them saw him there, His brother came up and asked who I was and what congregation and my boy mate told him. After he went to his brother (One that likes me), and told him something and went and sat down which I think it has to be about me. Few days I thought to myself I might is well email him and Add him, so I did I add him and Send him a message saying “Hi I’ve seen you at the convention and you was looking at me just wondering did you like the meeting ECT... And then I said bye” he came online on facebook for a few minutes he must of got my message but he didn’t reply for 4 days I’m thinking O.K what’s going on he must of being listening to his friend because his friend like me but he got a girlfriend.

Well Last night I was so mad so I do the right thing and I email him saying” How comes you didn’t get back to me blah blah Are you listening to your friends because I know one of your friends likes me ect... All I want to know why you were looking at me and all a sudden you’re blanking me. I’m not saying you’re going to go out with me all I’m saying is your friends are not going to be living with your girlfriend is you be living with her etc....the reason why I added you because I see you as a decent boy But maybe I’m wrong you can go listen to your friends I don’t care but listen your be the one choosing who you want to be with not them. Sorry I aint having ago but I just am confused that’s all.

I tell him that yesterday No replies from him. Ok his brother asked about me which I know his trying to get me to be with his brother I get it. But his not making any effort talking to me.Im doing all the work.

Did I do the wrong with? Am I pushing this too much.

Also I emailed his friend saying kind of same but saying “I got a feeling you like me through people. But listen if one of your mates likes me don’t try stop them ECT....What happen to you, you changed allot I liked the old you. I said quite more which am I afraid I did kind of go on and on but I wanted to say it because I just had it in my heart too much and I wanted to know if he did.
He replies “Stop talking to me I don’t know you, if you think I’m attracted to you then you must be a psycho”. What made me laugh is that he fancied me he followed me at this place etc...He fancies me but because his got a girlfriend now I thought to myself man I did the wrong thing. Today I wanted to email him I try finding him but his facebook is deactivated I don’t know did I really p**ss him off or is it because I told him the truth.
I like the first guy. The second guy is his friend and he likes me but I aint too sure but I got a feeling but I don’t care all I want to know did I scare him with my words or is he P**ss off.

I should of just left but it was bugging me for 1week.because the second guy doesn’t like my boy mate and gives him evils at this meeting and now is tryna get his mate (one I like) To not like my boy mate. So yeah I’m guessing it’s all to do with me. But aint too sure.
Right know I aint going to bother the second guy but if the first guy don’t reply then by Monday I will have to remove him from facebook and not chat to him. Because I’ve wasted my time.


Please help me and post as many comments as you like I do need help!
Have I done the right thing? To both.

Thanks

VictorM's advice:

There's a couple of things I'd like you to think about:

When a boy looks at you, there is a chance that he might like you, but mostly, all it says is that he's looking at you. Why? You never really know. Boys look at girls for a variety of reasons. It could be because they're in a boring situation and a pretty girls is a pleasant distraction. It could be because he actually finds you attractive, but really, there are millions of girls that a guy may find attractive. To draw the conclusion that a guy likes you or would want to talk to you, or have any kind of relationship just because he finds you attractive is to grossly misunderstand males. Even flirting is no sign of wanting to get together with a person. Looking and flirting are things that people (both boys and girls) might do for fun, to pass the time, to impress others, to inflate their ego.

The other thing you need to consider is that guys generally don't like being reprimanded. For you to do so when you haven't even talked to the guy is pushing it too far. You left a message on his facebook, fine. He has no obligation whatsoever to respond. To follow that up with a snippy message gives the guy no motivation at all.

You've got too much drama going on in your own young mind. Boys aren't likely to sit around and gossip and say this or that about girls. They either like you or they don't, and that's it. Doesn't sound like this boy is interested in you, except to maybe look at you.