Submitted on Wednesday, March 25, 2009
By: K
Age: 15
Question: there’s this guy i like and i really can’t figure out what to do. i liked him for about a month and a half, and then in January told him how i felt. he said he just wanted to be friends. after that it wasn't awkward like i thought it might be. in fact, it made us a lot closer and we've become much better friends since then. it’s been about 3 months since i told him and my friends have told me to give it some time. people ask pretty often if we like each other, although very few actually know what happened between us. i really really really want to know if there's any sort of chance for the two of us, but i don't want to bring it up again for fear of really ruining something good we already have going.

i think that he sometimes likes me cuz...

~we talk on a daily basis, like he always makes sure to say hi to me in the halls, in class, wherever, at least once a day
~we text sort of often, like 3ish times a week, but the convos generally aren’t that personal
~we DO have good conversations face-to-face tho
~he flirts with me sometimes, but it’s hard to tell
~a couple days ago he and another guy walked into a class i was in. this other guy happens to like me (but i don’t like him), and he started flirting with me big time. my crush tried to get in on the convo and he was loud and interrupting
~he is much louder around me than he is with other people. it sort of seems like when i walk in a room, he lights up

i REALLY like him and just have NO clue what to do. can you help?

VictorM's advice:

Oh yeah, he likes you. But... many boys around your age simply aren't ready for a steady relationship. It could be because they're not ready to handle the sexual part and/or because he likes other girls as well (that's right, chances are he has other crushes). So, he gets to enjoy your company without giving up the freedom to fantasize about other girls, all the while not having to do stuff he may be afraid of (making out, etc.).

Just continue to be his friend but do not tell him how you feel again. Let him go at his pace. Anything could happen, you never know.