Tuesday, March 31, 2009
I found myself really liking him again
Submitted on Friday, March 27, 2009
By: Lo
Age: 14
Location: Washington
Question: I've known this guy since before i even went to kindergarten, and have been good friends with him since. when we were that age we both had crushes on each other and knew it, but when i was in 2nd/3rd grade it kinda faded away...i moved away after 4th grade and came back 2 years ago and found myself really liking him again (more than i have ever liked any guy) sometimes i feel like he likes me too, especially when he cracks a lot of jokes around me, plays footsie, cuddles, or just plain teases me. But in between he seems a little more distant and really confuses me. sometimes i feel like he is trying to hide it from his parents and siblings, and also maybe his friend who we both know like me as well (but i don't like his friend) but i also feel like i'm lying to myself when i tell myself this. my friends say that i should tell him i like him or give up, but i don't know what to do. i am kind of shy about it and am really afraid that it will be very awkward for him if he doesn't actually like me the same way. I'm not even sure if he is allowed to date until he is 16...what should i do? does he like me?
VictorM's advice:
Do not listen to your friends. Don't tell him you like him.
Chances are that he likes you too, but you you may not be the only one he likes. Or, peer pressure is leading him to act cooler around you than he would like.
Being a boy around your age is not as easy as it sounds. He's still experiencing lots of personal changes, he's insecure (you're not sure if he likes and I bet he's not sure if you like him, so it's a two way street).
The best thing for you to do is to stay close to him, stay friends, and allow him to develop (girls mature much faster than boys when it comes to romance). He's probably not yet ready for the boyfriend/girlfriend gig.
By: Lo
Age: 14
Location: Washington
Question: I've known this guy since before i even went to kindergarten, and have been good friends with him since. when we were that age we both had crushes on each other and knew it, but when i was in 2nd/3rd grade it kinda faded away...i moved away after 4th grade and came back 2 years ago and found myself really liking him again (more than i have ever liked any guy) sometimes i feel like he likes me too, especially when he cracks a lot of jokes around me, plays footsie, cuddles, or just plain teases me. But in between he seems a little more distant and really confuses me. sometimes i feel like he is trying to hide it from his parents and siblings, and also maybe his friend who we both know like me as well (but i don't like his friend) but i also feel like i'm lying to myself when i tell myself this. my friends say that i should tell him i like him or give up, but i don't know what to do. i am kind of shy about it and am really afraid that it will be very awkward for him if he doesn't actually like me the same way. I'm not even sure if he is allowed to date until he is 16...what should i do? does he like me?
VictorM's advice:
Do not listen to your friends. Don't tell him you like him.
Chances are that he likes you too, but you you may not be the only one he likes. Or, peer pressure is leading him to act cooler around you than he would like.
Being a boy around your age is not as easy as it sounds. He's still experiencing lots of personal changes, he's insecure (you're not sure if he likes and I bet he's not sure if you like him, so it's a two way street).
The best thing for you to do is to stay close to him, stay friends, and allow him to develop (girls mature much faster than boys when it comes to romance). He's probably not yet ready for the boyfriend/girlfriend gig.
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