Saturday, March 28, 2009
I am in Real Estate
Submitted on Friday, March 27, 2009
By: Alexis
Age: 23
Location: New York
Question: Hello. I am in Real Estate and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. On Tuesday night I was very stressed out with picking up a new part time job and being swamped with Real Estate I just didn't know if i could handle it and I went to him to just vent. Well, normally he would listen when I vent and he would just say "Alexis, everything will work out" but this time he really got down on my Real Estate and said it wasn't working (i've only been in for over a year) and he said maybe i should make Real Estate part time and get a full time position. Which, really upset me, when I am stressed every little thing makes me cry, so I started crying and he got like " omg, I can't believe you're crying." I said, well you're upsetting me and I love Real estate and don't want to give it up. So long story short he said "fuck this, I was just talking to you about it" and then he said "i'm going to go" and now I haven't heard from him since then which was around 8pm Tuesday evening and now it's Friday.
We never don't talk about our problems or anything. Why isn't he calling me?
VictorM's advice:
When guys get upset it's not unusual for them to sulk and brood for a few days.
Guys are problem solvers, which is why so many aren't very good listeners. They tend to just want to jump in and fix things. He probably felt that he was giving you a sensible solution and you're just being stubborn about it, or something along those lines.
Give him a few days.
By: Alexis
Age: 23
Location: New York
Question: Hello. I am in Real Estate and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. On Tuesday night I was very stressed out with picking up a new part time job and being swamped with Real Estate I just didn't know if i could handle it and I went to him to just vent. Well, normally he would listen when I vent and he would just say "Alexis, everything will work out" but this time he really got down on my Real Estate and said it wasn't working (i've only been in for over a year) and he said maybe i should make Real Estate part time and get a full time position. Which, really upset me, when I am stressed every little thing makes me cry, so I started crying and he got like " omg, I can't believe you're crying." I said, well you're upsetting me and I love Real estate and don't want to give it up. So long story short he said "fuck this, I was just talking to you about it" and then he said "i'm going to go" and now I haven't heard from him since then which was around 8pm Tuesday evening and now it's Friday.
We never don't talk about our problems or anything. Why isn't he calling me?
VictorM's advice:
When guys get upset it's not unusual for them to sulk and brood for a few days.
Guys are problem solvers, which is why so many aren't very good listeners. They tend to just want to jump in and fix things. He probably felt that he was giving you a sensible solution and you're just being stubborn about it, or something along those lines.
Give him a few days.
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