Thursday, February 26, 2009
Me and this guy were flirty friends
Submitted on Monday, February 23, 2009
By: once a player, always a player?
Age: 15
Location: unknown
Question: In 8th grade me and this guy were flirty friends, we kind of had a thing but over the summer into 9th grade we got really close. By the end of the summer we got into this huge fight, because i accused him of being a player and wanted to know what he really wanted out of me. We didnt talk for 4 months. In January of freshman year he finally said hi to me, and he was like why dont you ever call me anymore, and i was like why dont you ever call me. After the convo we stuck to just saying hi because he had a girlfriend. Lately hes been saying to my friend that he wants to dump her because shes boring and she wants him to chase after her, and he wants to know if i like him, but the other day he said that he wants to go out with me because i have big boobs? I don't know what i should have my friend tell him because if i say i like him i dont want him to think he can have me just like that, but if i tell him no i don't want him to be pushed away and not come after me, i want to be with him but i want a real relationship not games. How should i let him know that without pushing him away but leaving it so that he knows what i want and he needs to decide what he wants? I want to give it a try and see if he truly likes me or if he is just playing me like the other girls.
VictorM's advice:
Disregard the reason he gave for liking you. Some boys think that being open about liking a girl makes them seem weak, so they blabber about things they think makes them look cool.
You should stop relying on friends to receive and send messages. More often than not, that only complicates things. You should start talking to him more. Go beyond the "hi" and start having conversations. See if you can bring back the friendship first. This way, you can find out for yourself if he's really interested in you for you or just for your boobs.
By: once a player, always a player?
Age: 15
Location: unknown
Question: In 8th grade me and this guy were flirty friends, we kind of had a thing but over the summer into 9th grade we got really close. By the end of the summer we got into this huge fight, because i accused him of being a player and wanted to know what he really wanted out of me. We didnt talk for 4 months. In January of freshman year he finally said hi to me, and he was like why dont you ever call me anymore, and i was like why dont you ever call me. After the convo we stuck to just saying hi because he had a girlfriend. Lately hes been saying to my friend that he wants to dump her because shes boring and she wants him to chase after her, and he wants to know if i like him, but the other day he said that he wants to go out with me because i have big boobs? I don't know what i should have my friend tell him because if i say i like him i dont want him to think he can have me just like that, but if i tell him no i don't want him to be pushed away and not come after me, i want to be with him but i want a real relationship not games. How should i let him know that without pushing him away but leaving it so that he knows what i want and he needs to decide what he wants? I want to give it a try and see if he truly likes me or if he is just playing me like the other girls.
VictorM's advice:
Disregard the reason he gave for liking you. Some boys think that being open about liking a girl makes them seem weak, so they blabber about things they think makes them look cool.
You should stop relying on friends to receive and send messages. More often than not, that only complicates things. You should start talking to him more. Go beyond the "hi" and start having conversations. See if you can bring back the friendship first. This way, you can find out for yourself if he's really interested in you for you or just for your boobs.
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