Submitted on Monday, February 23, 2009
By: D
Age: 13
Location: california
Question: i have a friend who has a cousin (male) and i met him by my best friend and this other friend...we didn't know each other much but one day i went to the park with my best friend and they guy and I..and i started to notice my friend seems to like him more than friends but so did i...the guy is really nice, caring, sweet, funny...but later on as we knew each other more on that day i discovered we had a lot in common which is when i started to have feelings for the guy and he started to hug me for no reason, touch me on my arm or shoulders and he tried to reach for my hand, but i also noticed that when we started to walk again he would always stay behind me or next to me..and would say nice compliments like "your hair is pretty" or "i like your shirt" and such. but he would always defend me from my best friend and always on my side no matter what.there are lots of things he would try to do like touch me and make me laugh all the time and make me feel comfortable (which worked)he also teases my friend the most and sweet things of me and out of me and my best friend is me he chooses but also one day my best friend suggested i should go out with him and at the time i didn't like him and he just looked at me and then he waited for my reply which was that i didn't know him..i don't know what to do..i like the guy but am not sure if my best friend does, she claims to have a boyfriend or likes someone else but i am also not sure if the guy likes me or not or he's just being nice to get close to me and have a nice friendship..should i make the first move?

p.s. we have each others number and today he didn't really seem like he was into me until the end when i started to talk to him and make jokes

VictorM's advice:

You should forget about your best friend liking him. She has already given you the green light. Sounds to me like you may be using her as an excuse not to take a risk.

The boy likes you. But boys around your age can be very fickle. Many aren't ready yet for the girl/boy thing yet, and many like so many girls at once, they're sorta like a kid in a candy shop.

You should look to become better friends with him. Don't rush things, but don't wait for things to happen either. Talk to him more, be friendly, and see how it goes.