Friday, February 27, 2009
He ended up leaving me for this other woman
Submitted on Thursday, February 26, 2009
By: Rosie
Age: 21
Location: Uk
Question: My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me last year. He ended up leaving me for this other woman. Since then we have been back together and broke up several times. This time he has said he wants it to work and we should start by taking it slow. However since we last broke up he's been seeing another woman. Even though we are not together right now I believe we both wanted to work on 'us'. For the last few weeks we have been seeing each other regularly and and having a great time. But she still stays at his house and they still go out to dinner, etc although he says they're not sleeping together. I do believe he wants something with me however it feels like he wants the best of both worlds?
VictorM's advice:
One of the definitions of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, each time expecting different results. By that definition, you're both crazy.
But further, guys, even crazy ones, lose respect for a girl who doesn't respect herself. And how can he respect a girl who is buying his crap of him working on "us" when the other woman stays at his house?
You're in a hopeless vicious cycle with this guy. It'll lead nowhere but more unhappiness. He's getting from you all he wants, nothing more, nothing less. And no, it's not the best from both worlds; it's the "it'll do for now" of both worlds. He'll drop you and/or her the moment something better comes along.
By: Rosie
Age: 21
Location: Uk
Question: My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me last year. He ended up leaving me for this other woman. Since then we have been back together and broke up several times. This time he has said he wants it to work and we should start by taking it slow. However since we last broke up he's been seeing another woman. Even though we are not together right now I believe we both wanted to work on 'us'. For the last few weeks we have been seeing each other regularly and and having a great time. But she still stays at his house and they still go out to dinner, etc although he says they're not sleeping together. I do believe he wants something with me however it feels like he wants the best of both worlds?
VictorM's advice:
One of the definitions of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, each time expecting different results. By that definition, you're both crazy.
But further, guys, even crazy ones, lose respect for a girl who doesn't respect herself. And how can he respect a girl who is buying his crap of him working on "us" when the other woman stays at his house?
You're in a hopeless vicious cycle with this guy. It'll lead nowhere but more unhappiness. He's getting from you all he wants, nothing more, nothing less. And no, it's not the best from both worlds; it's the "it'll do for now" of both worlds. He'll drop you and/or her the moment something better comes along.
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