Submitted on Tuesday, January 06, 2009
By: Lyna
Age: 19
Location: Davis
Question: Hi Victor. Do you remember me? Well from the last time i send you my problems, things have well kind of change a little. It's getting better.

He forgive me for calling him a jackass on the last day of school. Well over the 3 week of winter break, we haven't talked to each other. 5 days after I called him a jackass, i talked to him again online. He sound okay and was talking to me like normal, but then the next day when I aimed him to ask him something he didn't respond and the next thing I know, he blocked me. I don't get why. I thought things were going fine. My friend called him and he told her that "I (meaning me) need to move on with my life and not let him make me miserable". He told her he just needs more space. When I found out he blocked me I send him a message and said "since you initiate to block me, are you saying we're no longer friends"? He didn't respond, he just unblock me. This is just a recap of what happen.

After we got back to school, things were going fine. I gave him his birthday present. I didn't give it to him directly. He wasn't at his dorm so I just drop it off. He message me later when he got back saying thank you and stuff. The next day, he gave me a call and asked if I want to play badminton with him. I told him I'll come later and when i did, he didn't even talk to me. I don't get it. He invite me there but didn't talk or say hi to me. Well i didn't either but that's because I feel I have nothing to say to him. I don't know why. I came over to his place again today just to check if he open or used my present. He actually did. Btw, i gave him an alarm clock. He used it. Well the question I wanted to ask was, do you think he still or even likes me or he's just treating me like a friend?

VictorM's advice:

I think he's trying to just be your friend, but I don't think you come across to him as wanting just that, so once in while he pushes you away. Now, you may say that you are just a friend, but I ask you, how many other just-friend males did you give a birthday gift to?

I think he wants you just as a friend, not a lover and not even a close friend. Just a friend.