Thursday, January 29, 2009
He is pretty much the opposite of my type
Submitted on Wednesday, January 28, 2009
By: K
Age: 15
Question: hey victorm, have talked to you in a while. how ya doing?
ok, so there’s this guy who i’ve become good friends with in the past month. he is pretty much the opposite of my type, both in appearance and personality. i go for quieter, sort of mysterious indie-rock guys with dark complexions, while my friend is a male version of myself: rambunctious, loud, blonde and athletic. but somehow, anyways, i have (sort of) fallen for him. neither of us really seem to be in the place for a relationship at the moment (i just confessed my feelings to another guy, who gently turned me down but broke my heart nevertheless, and my guy friend’s gf of 6 months broke up with him in december, and he is heartbroken as well). we text on a daily basis, non stop, and at school whenever he see’s me he shouts my name loudly, even when we are both surrounded by our friends. when we had class together during first semester he flirted with my shamelessly, stealing my seat so that i had to sit in his lap. he has nicknames for me that only he uses. when i talk to him, i feel amazing, like i can tell him anything. its insane how much we have in common. i know i’m not his regular type…but how much of a chance is there that he likes me? and how much of a chance is there that we could be together?
VictorM's advice:
Hi K. Welcome back. I'm doing fine, thanks.
Well, I think there's a good chance that he likes you as much as you like him. Why do I say this? Because I think this notion of people liking certain types is mostly bogus, more so around your age when your personality and that of the guys you meet are still largely being developed.
What I think plays a much bigger role is how you feel about yourself around him and vice-versa. You already said you feel amazing, and I suspect he feels good about himself around you, otherwise he wouldn't seek you out as much as he does.
So, if you have children together, name your first male after me. :)
By: K
Age: 15
Question: hey victorm, have talked to you in a while. how ya doing?
ok, so there’s this guy who i’ve become good friends with in the past month. he is pretty much the opposite of my type, both in appearance and personality. i go for quieter, sort of mysterious indie-rock guys with dark complexions, while my friend is a male version of myself: rambunctious, loud, blonde and athletic. but somehow, anyways, i have (sort of) fallen for him. neither of us really seem to be in the place for a relationship at the moment (i just confessed my feelings to another guy, who gently turned me down but broke my heart nevertheless, and my guy friend’s gf of 6 months broke up with him in december, and he is heartbroken as well). we text on a daily basis, non stop, and at school whenever he see’s me he shouts my name loudly, even when we are both surrounded by our friends. when we had class together during first semester he flirted with my shamelessly, stealing my seat so that i had to sit in his lap. he has nicknames for me that only he uses. when i talk to him, i feel amazing, like i can tell him anything. its insane how much we have in common. i know i’m not his regular type…but how much of a chance is there that he likes me? and how much of a chance is there that we could be together?
VictorM's advice:
Hi K. Welcome back. I'm doing fine, thanks.
Well, I think there's a good chance that he likes you as much as you like him. Why do I say this? Because I think this notion of people liking certain types is mostly bogus, more so around your age when your personality and that of the guys you meet are still largely being developed.
What I think plays a much bigger role is how you feel about yourself around him and vice-versa. You already said you feel amazing, and I suspect he feels good about himself around you, otherwise he wouldn't seek you out as much as he does.
So, if you have children together, name your first male after me. :)
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