Submitted on Monday, December 29, 2008
By: Cinderella
Age: 22
Location: Florida
Question: Hello. Well i want to know if this guy that i have liked for 2 years likes me too as a potential girlfriend. We have everything in common and good chemistry.

I met him in college and we became super close friends. We would hang out always, and he flirts and calls me names, teases me a lot. He even says i'm her favorite friend. I have met his mom (whole family). His mom has told me that he always talks about me (when he comes down from upstate).. he always sees me first and is super nice with me, he has asked my mom age me getting married..=s. Finds any situation to touch my hands and hug me after i get mad and i get him the "eye look". Oh his lips part away when i talk to him, and touches his chin. For xmas he got a present )Huge) and i gave him a perfume and a little letter.

But he has never said anything to me only oh you look nice, but nothing else not even hold my hands or kiss me, we have been in good situation close to each other inches apart and he looks at me but never did it. Is he shy? i don't know what to do. i was raised with a mentality that girl has to wait til he says something. Should I say something? I adore him. He's the world to me.

VictorM's advice:

You should say something, but be prepared for possible disappointment. Because while he obviously likes you a lot, there are no signs that he likes you in a romantic way.

The flirting and touching are signs that he likes your attention. Guys flirt and touch girls without having the slightest feelings for them. Often, it is easier to flirt with a girl we know likes us more than we like her. That's because we know we can and we won't get rejected.

Having a lot of things in common is by no means a measure of romantic possibilities. In fact, romance often involves friction and passion, which are more natural in two people with varying interests and different personalities.

Shyness could be a deterrent, which is why I suggested that you bring it up, but if you have known him and have been close for a while, I'm not so sure that's the answer.

In any case, it does you no good to keep going through life wondering. If he does like you and shyness was the obstacle, you'll help get over it by bringing it up. If it turns out he likes you purely as a friend, I'm sure it'll hurt, but you're better off knowing because sooner or later, he will find a girlfriend and that would hurt even more.