Monday, December 22, 2008
'I hate you!'
Submitted on Saturday, December 20, 2008
By K, 14:
hey victorm!
so there's this guy that i've started to like, and i'm not sure if he likes me back. we have a few classes together but we only became friendly 2 weeks ago. we started saying hey to each other in the halls, and he walks with me to class occasionally. we talk pretty often, and flirt a lot. one time when i came into class after lunch, i said 'hey i haven't seen you all day' and he said, 'yes you have, you saw me at lunch. i saw you staring at me.' i was kind of confused since i hadn't been staring, and i was like, 'no i wasn't. and how would you be able to tell if i was staring at you unless YOU were staring at ME?' and then he didn't really say anything. and he also says things like, 'I hate you!' playfully and then i'm like, 'i hate you too!' and we'll smile at each other. i want to go from friends to more-than-friends. does he like me? how to i move past where we are?
VictorM's advice:
Well, I don't think you need any help from me; you seem to be doing just fine on your own. Just keep it up.
Just keep in mind that boys around your age may not be ready yet for a boyfriend/girlfriend thing yet. And some think they are ready but are scared to try it. So go easy on the boy. And many have crushes on more than one girl at a time so they may not want to ruin their little fantasy world by having just one girlfriend in the real world.
What you need to do now is find a way to get together with him alone and away from school. That will expand your "friendship" and take a further step into something more. Try asking him if he wants to come and see a movie at your house, or go to a movie, or meet at the mall... pick a place/activity that you know he likes and ask very matter-of-fact, like it's no big deal, not like it's a step away from marriage.
By K, 14:
hey victorm!
so there's this guy that i've started to like, and i'm not sure if he likes me back. we have a few classes together but we only became friendly 2 weeks ago. we started saying hey to each other in the halls, and he walks with me to class occasionally. we talk pretty often, and flirt a lot. one time when i came into class after lunch, i said 'hey i haven't seen you all day' and he said, 'yes you have, you saw me at lunch. i saw you staring at me.' i was kind of confused since i hadn't been staring, and i was like, 'no i wasn't. and how would you be able to tell if i was staring at you unless YOU were staring at ME?' and then he didn't really say anything. and he also says things like, 'I hate you!' playfully and then i'm like, 'i hate you too!' and we'll smile at each other. i want to go from friends to more-than-friends. does he like me? how to i move past where we are?
VictorM's advice:
Well, I don't think you need any help from me; you seem to be doing just fine on your own. Just keep it up.
Just keep in mind that boys around your age may not be ready yet for a boyfriend/girlfriend thing yet. And some think they are ready but are scared to try it. So go easy on the boy. And many have crushes on more than one girl at a time so they may not want to ruin their little fantasy world by having just one girlfriend in the real world.
What you need to do now is find a way to get together with him alone and away from school. That will expand your "friendship" and take a further step into something more. Try asking him if he wants to come and see a movie at your house, or go to a movie, or meet at the mall... pick a place/activity that you know he likes and ask very matter-of-fact, like it's no big deal, not like it's a step away from marriage.
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Follow-up message from K:
so we got off for xmas break and things had been going okay. on xmas eve we chatted online a little and it was awkward in a good way, and when i had to go, there was the sort of back and forth that lasted like 5 minutes where i was pretty sure he was going to ask me for my number but never did, and finally i had to sign off. later that day, i sent him a private message that said, 'i'm going to be bored tomorrow, so you should text me' and then i gave him my number. he never texted me! i thought he liked me, at least as a friend. i'm 100% sure he saw the message. i am really sad now. what does that mean? what can i do? give it to him again?
so we got off for xmas break and things had been going okay. on xmas eve we chatted online a little and it was awkward in a good way, and when i had to go, there was the sort of back and forth that lasted like 5 minutes where i was pretty sure he was going to ask me for my number but never did, and finally i had to sign off. later that day, i sent him a private message that said, 'i'm going to be bored tomorrow, so you should text me' and then i gave him my number. he never texted me! i thought he liked me, at least as a friend. i'm 100% sure he saw the message. i am really sad now. what does that mean? what can i do? give it to him again?
Don't be sad because it's normal for him not to message you right away.
Initiating contact that way is often times terrifying for the guy. What to say? Will it be corny? What if she finds it dumb? Etc.
He may get the nerve to message you. If not, help him a along and just message him, ending with some question that forces him to answer you.
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Initiating contact that way is often times terrifying for the guy. What to say? Will it be corny? What if she finds it dumb? Etc.
He may get the nerve to message you. If not, help him a along and just message him, ending with some question that forces him to answer you.
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