Monday, December 29, 2008
I found this guy while I was separated from my husband
Submitted on Sunday, December 28, 2008
By: Crysta
Age: 23
Location: United States
Question:
hello!
It's hard for me to really write what i want to, but i need some advise. I recently got married, 2 months ago to be exact. i have been in a relationship with this person for a little over 5 years and even though it hasn't been good, i have managed to make it work, until now. i never cheated on him, though he cheated on me SEVERAL times. i found this guy who i started talking to while i was separated from my now husband. we talk a little and started to get to know each other. we have managed a little bit of a friendship and when i told him i got married it didn't seem to make a difference in the fact he wanted to hang out with me. the day before Christmas eve we met up at a movie and hung out. two days later i met him and we slept together. during all this time we would text and talk all day long. now i can barely get any kind of conversation. though i should feel bad that i have done what i did to my husband, i don't. however i don't get this so called guy on the side. was it the fact he just wanted to sleep with me and now that that has been done, he is done with me? should i bother trying to talk to him or just let it be? my husband and i are actually now in the process of a divorce (though it has nothing to do with me seeing this other guy). i do have feelings for my " guy on the side" and i just would like to have an idea if its worth any pursuit.... thanks
VictorM's advice:
I would advise you to finalize the divorce first and then, yeah, try to find out if there's anything still left with the other guy. Who knows why I pulled away. Could be for a lot of reasons, but it would all be speculation. You'll be better off trying to know for sure what he's thinking.
By: Crysta
Age: 23
Location: United States
Question:
hello!
It's hard for me to really write what i want to, but i need some advise. I recently got married, 2 months ago to be exact. i have been in a relationship with this person for a little over 5 years and even though it hasn't been good, i have managed to make it work, until now. i never cheated on him, though he cheated on me SEVERAL times. i found this guy who i started talking to while i was separated from my now husband. we talk a little and started to get to know each other. we have managed a little bit of a friendship and when i told him i got married it didn't seem to make a difference in the fact he wanted to hang out with me. the day before Christmas eve we met up at a movie and hung out. two days later i met him and we slept together. during all this time we would text and talk all day long. now i can barely get any kind of conversation. though i should feel bad that i have done what i did to my husband, i don't. however i don't get this so called guy on the side. was it the fact he just wanted to sleep with me and now that that has been done, he is done with me? should i bother trying to talk to him or just let it be? my husband and i are actually now in the process of a divorce (though it has nothing to do with me seeing this other guy). i do have feelings for my " guy on the side" and i just would like to have an idea if its worth any pursuit.... thanks
VictorM's advice:
I would advise you to finalize the divorce first and then, yeah, try to find out if there's anything still left with the other guy. Who knows why I pulled away. Could be for a lot of reasons, but it would all be speculation. You'll be better off trying to know for sure what he's thinking.
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