Sunday, November 30, 2008
I'd like to get to know him better
Submitted on Sunday, November 30, 2008
By M, 15:
Hello!
I think I have a crush on a guy. He's 2 years older than me and a really cool and fun guy. We have similar hobbies too and all. The problem is that I've only talked to him on msn. He also seems a bit distant most of the time, but there are times when he opens up more and talks a lot. But he has also said he doesn't want a relationship. I didn't confess to him or anything, we were talking about some other things and he just mentioned it. Do you think he really meant the thing about not wanting a girlfriend? And what should I do? I'd like to get to know him better. Not to mention that I really really like him :)
Thanks for your time,
M
VictorM's advice:
Guys generally say they don't want a relationship. That's because guys much prefer to know a girl for a while before committing to her. Girls, of course, tend to do the opposite and hook the guy right away. So he's really just trying to slow you down, not rule you out.
Attraction is never about the other person but about how you feel about yourself around that person. So, make him feel good about himself when he's with you and he'll have a hard time resisting you. And the best ways to make a guy feel good about himself are: simple, sincere compliments, and showing an interest on things that he knows a lot about.
Of course, dispensing with compliments and attention in the right measure is the trick, but it's your job to learn what makes him tick. Just whatever you do, don't try to rush him into a relationship. Keep your feelings to yourself for now, smile, compliment, listen, and be fun and easy going.
Easy, right? :)
By M, 15:
Hello!
I think I have a crush on a guy. He's 2 years older than me and a really cool and fun guy. We have similar hobbies too and all. The problem is that I've only talked to him on msn. He also seems a bit distant most of the time, but there are times when he opens up more and talks a lot. But he has also said he doesn't want a relationship. I didn't confess to him or anything, we were talking about some other things and he just mentioned it. Do you think he really meant the thing about not wanting a girlfriend? And what should I do? I'd like to get to know him better. Not to mention that I really really like him :)
Thanks for your time,
M
VictorM's advice:
Guys generally say they don't want a relationship. That's because guys much prefer to know a girl for a while before committing to her. Girls, of course, tend to do the opposite and hook the guy right away. So he's really just trying to slow you down, not rule you out.
Attraction is never about the other person but about how you feel about yourself around that person. So, make him feel good about himself when he's with you and he'll have a hard time resisting you. And the best ways to make a guy feel good about himself are: simple, sincere compliments, and showing an interest on things that he knows a lot about.
Of course, dispensing with compliments and attention in the right measure is the trick, but it's your job to learn what makes him tick. Just whatever you do, don't try to rush him into a relationship. Keep your feelings to yourself for now, smile, compliment, listen, and be fun and easy going.
Easy, right? :)
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