Submitted on Saturday, November 29, 2008
By Kylie, 25, from Australia:

I have been friends with this male for 1 year now. We speak nearly every day, texts sometimes just to see what i'm up to ending in a wink, email at work everyday, go out to casual dinners, days at the beach together have met his family he has met mine, we've met each others friends. Some time ago i told him i had feelings and he said he was not ready for a relationship just yet as at that time was recent after his breakup said i need my time as he needed his..but would love to remain friends.. tho i'm going crazy with my feelings..People always say oh are you two a couple we are always clarifying we are not.

He always compliments me on the hair, clothes etc and remembers little things i told him a long time ago. Recently when out with friends kept telling me i'm No.1 and was a bit touchy feely on my bottom, ignoring his female friends at the club and staying with me and my friends. We sleep over each other house every few weeks but only spoon or sleep in the same bed.

Is this something that friends do, i'm thinking not.. i think he might be shy to reveal his true feelings or scared how i will react cause he thinks i'm happy with is just remaining friends.

I need some assistance in some sure signs from a male perspective that he may like a woman?

VictorM's advice:

He's not afraid to reveal his feelings, he just doesn't have romantic feelings for you. And he has no doubt about how you'd react, after all, you've confessed your feelings for him already .

What's happening is that from his point of view you're the safe, comfortable, fun to be with woman that makes for a great transitional partner. And that's all that you are. Could his feelings change and could he still fall in love with you? He could, but that's much more likely to happen in romance novels or in the movies than it is in real life. What's more likely is that he'll find a girlfriend and you'll be left wondering what happened.

Guys are very happy carrying on a friendship like yours, for years even, as long as there's no emotional involvement. He can recognize your physical attractiveness and at times have a stronger reaction to your appearance -- which explains his compliments and attention to your bottom -- but as long as he avoids emotional attachment, you have nothing in terms of a relationship.