Sunday, November 30, 2008
He doesn't like when I touch him
Submitted on Saturday, November 29, 2008
By Misty, from St.Louis,MO:
Okay so, it seems lately, ever since October, that my boyfriend Aaron seems to not like it when I touch him. He has no trouble with kissing or hugging, and we've gone all the way before. But whenever I hint to a deep kiss or wanting to touch him, he gets really quiet, as in, not saying a word. Does he not like it when I touch him anymore, or does it seem like I'm forcing him?
VictorM's advice:
Chances are that he never really liked you touching him but since he was courting you he was putting up with it. Now that he's secured about you being into him, he's allowing his more natural self to come through. The kissing and the hugging are probably fine because they are pleasant to him in a sexual stimulation kind of way, but the displays of affection, however, are a different story.
If you don't like this about him, try talking to him to come to an understanding of what's on his mind when you touch him and what his views on the subject are. Maybe you can work things out, maybe not. But don't dismiss this discrepancy on your displays of affection preferences because chances are it will play a major role in your relationship.
One other possibility: if he's avoiding you or spending less time with you, consider that this touching change could mean he's losing interest in you.
By Misty, from St.Louis,MO:
Okay so, it seems lately, ever since October, that my boyfriend Aaron seems to not like it when I touch him. He has no trouble with kissing or hugging, and we've gone all the way before. But whenever I hint to a deep kiss or wanting to touch him, he gets really quiet, as in, not saying a word. Does he not like it when I touch him anymore, or does it seem like I'm forcing him?
VictorM's advice:
Chances are that he never really liked you touching him but since he was courting you he was putting up with it. Now that he's secured about you being into him, he's allowing his more natural self to come through. The kissing and the hugging are probably fine because they are pleasant to him in a sexual stimulation kind of way, but the displays of affection, however, are a different story.
If you don't like this about him, try talking to him to come to an understanding of what's on his mind when you touch him and what his views on the subject are. Maybe you can work things out, maybe not. But don't dismiss this discrepancy on your displays of affection preferences because chances are it will play a major role in your relationship.
One other possibility: if he's avoiding you or spending less time with you, consider that this touching change could mean he's losing interest in you.
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