Friday, October 31, 2008
It was a bad break up
Submitted on Tuesday, October 28, 2008
By UNKNOWN, 19, from SOMEWHERE:
I dated this guy for almost 2 years, and we lived with each other for almost a year. We broke up about 3 months ago, you can say it was a bad break up. I am over the brake up now, but I am not fully over him ( if that makes any sense )- anyways, he called me a few nights ago, wanting to talk to me in person. I go pick him up and we hang out-he doesn't talk to me about what he wanted to talk to me about, but we just talked about how our lives were and we just caught up with each other. I asked him the next day what he wanted to tell me thinking he couldn't tell me in person for some reason, he tells me that I was not a bad girlfriend and some other things. We have hung out almost every day since then, I am not going to talk to him until he talks to me now... I don't know if he likes me or not anymore. I will be fine if he just wants to be friends, and I will be fine if he likes me. I would just like to know if he still likes me so I don't scare him off on accident.
So any advice?? I am not talking to him until he talks to me, because one of the reasons he broke up with me was because I was too clingy, so I am trying to show him that I don't need him anymore, and that I can live without him - and that it's still cool to hang out with him.
If that made any sense. I am really confused if you can not tell. any advice would be great, but I would like guys views a little better.
peace
If that made any sense. I am really confused if you can not tell. any advice would be great, but I would like guys views a little better.
peace
VictorM's advice:
What you say about your feelings and wanting to keep a certain distance makes sense. Chances are that he feels the same way, which is, he'd be fine being friends and he'd be fine getting back together. But think about it: is that a recipe for a successful relationship, for both of you to be with someone that you can either take or leave? I don't think so.
It's possible, in fact, most likely, that you both are going through the normal process of getting over each other and doing so in small steps and over time. Instead of getting closer to each other, you'll just continue to drift further apart because you really don't have any passion for each other anymore. You're both just a habit that you need to break.
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