Thursday, September 25, 2008
He was ignoring my text messages
Submitted on Monday, September 22, 2008
By Cameron, 22, from California:
This may be long, I apologize but I have a question regarding a guy I just started talking to. We have been hanging out for about 3 weeks now on the weekends. We hang out friday I sleep over, we hang out all day sat and all day sun. We have not done anything other then sleep and kiss (I made that very clear to him im not like that). He tends to drink alot and i have noticed that the only time he ever texts me first is when hes drunk, and the only time he kisses me is when hes drunk also. He makes it know that he really likes me, and he even sent me a message one night saying how i shouldn't listen to anyone and what they may say about him cause he is really into me. The problem i had the past weekend though was the fact that it seemed as though he was ignoring my text messages and only getting back to me when it is convenient for him. Whenever we are together he is so attentive and really seems like he is interested but now i dont know if i am over reacting by his lack of interest, or if he just needed some time for himself and some friends on one weekend since we have been spending the past couple of weekends together. Thank you so much for your help, I am stumped on this one.
VictorM's advice:
Texting is a device invented by the devil himself. It's pure evil. The damn little keys are perfect for your small fingers but hell for our gigantic ones. Or something like that.
Seriously, don't judge his interest in you by the amount of time it takes to reply to your text messages. Guys simply don't have the need to get the damn messages in the first place, and we don't realize that's so important to you to get an answer within a prescribed window of time. And in any case, responding timely is just a reflection of a tidy mind, not of a passionate heart.
If you're going to worry about something, worry about his drinking.
By Cameron, 22, from California:
This may be long, I apologize but I have a question regarding a guy I just started talking to. We have been hanging out for about 3 weeks now on the weekends. We hang out friday I sleep over, we hang out all day sat and all day sun. We have not done anything other then sleep and kiss (I made that very clear to him im not like that). He tends to drink alot and i have noticed that the only time he ever texts me first is when hes drunk, and the only time he kisses me is when hes drunk also. He makes it know that he really likes me, and he even sent me a message one night saying how i shouldn't listen to anyone and what they may say about him cause he is really into me. The problem i had the past weekend though was the fact that it seemed as though he was ignoring my text messages and only getting back to me when it is convenient for him. Whenever we are together he is so attentive and really seems like he is interested but now i dont know if i am over reacting by his lack of interest, or if he just needed some time for himself and some friends on one weekend since we have been spending the past couple of weekends together. Thank you so much for your help, I am stumped on this one.
VictorM's advice:
Texting is a device invented by the devil himself. It's pure evil. The damn little keys are perfect for your small fingers but hell for our gigantic ones. Or something like that.
Seriously, don't judge his interest in you by the amount of time it takes to reply to your text messages. Guys simply don't have the need to get the damn messages in the first place, and we don't realize that's so important to you to get an answer within a prescribed window of time. And in any case, responding timely is just a reflection of a tidy mind, not of a passionate heart.
If you're going to worry about something, worry about his drinking.
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