Thursday, September 25, 2008
He is bragging to anyone who will listen
Submitted on Monday, September 22, 2008
By Vicki, 41, from United States:
I have a friends with benefits situation with a younger man, first time in my life and I will never do it again, he started dating someone but now I have found out he is bragging to anyone who will listen that he has slept with me. How do I handle this? What pleasure do men get out of doing this?
VictorM's advice:
In one word: ego. Unless you have a huge one, you'll never understand the pleasure he gets. To most younger guys, nothing is worth bragging about more than having just sex with an older (and I assume, attractive) woman. Most guys just fantasize about it; he's lived it. He's da man! He gets a cigar! And what good is being da man if no one else knows about it?
You could call him and ask him to keep it to himself, but frankly, I don't see the point. He's already done the bragging. You can't undo it now. Maybe he would refrain from talking about it in the future, but I wouldn't count on it.
You chose to have sex with him. It was your decision, your life, your business. Your best bet is to carry with this attitude. The more insignificant you make it sound, the less others will be interested in talking about it. Basically, yes, you had a relationship with him and now it's over. That's all folks. Move on, there's nothing to see here.
By Vicki, 41, from United States:
I have a friends with benefits situation with a younger man, first time in my life and I will never do it again, he started dating someone but now I have found out he is bragging to anyone who will listen that he has slept with me. How do I handle this? What pleasure do men get out of doing this?
VictorM's advice:
In one word: ego. Unless you have a huge one, you'll never understand the pleasure he gets. To most younger guys, nothing is worth bragging about more than having just sex with an older (and I assume, attractive) woman. Most guys just fantasize about it; he's lived it. He's da man! He gets a cigar! And what good is being da man if no one else knows about it?
You could call him and ask him to keep it to himself, but frankly, I don't see the point. He's already done the bragging. You can't undo it now. Maybe he would refrain from talking about it in the future, but I wouldn't count on it.
You chose to have sex with him. It was your decision, your life, your business. Your best bet is to carry with this attitude. The more insignificant you make it sound, the less others will be interested in talking about it. Basically, yes, you had a relationship with him and now it's over. That's all folks. Move on, there's nothing to see here.
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