Sunday, September 28, 2008
All he wants to do is call
Submitted on Thursday, September 25, 2008
By Amanda, 28, from Philadelphia:
Hi
By Amanda, 28, from Philadelphia:
Hi
My question is how does a gal know if a guy is actually interested? I was asked out a few times by a coworker and we seemed to have a good time together. He calls me all the time. The problem is, seems like now all he wants to do is call. We will both have a day off...I won't hear from him until late in the day (9, 10 pm) when it's obviously too late to get together and do anything. It's been over a month since we have seen eachother outside of work. Our schedules are a bit conflicting at times, but there have beem PLENTY of opportunities. In fact one Sat. evening he called me from a carnival in his hometown to tell me all about it. He wondered why I was hurt by this (I was never invited). I am starting to feel hurt and used...like maybe he just wants a work buddy, someone to discuss things that are bothering him about our job. He has never kissed me, held my hand, or told me I was beautiful. He is a shy guy who I suspect is inexperienced. I don't believe he means to be hurtful. Is it possible he just wants friendship? Perhaps he feels nothing for me but feels obligated to still call because we are coworkers?
VictorM's advice:
Is he interested in romance? He may not be, but he could be. I mean, you never held his hand and you never kissed him, and yet you're interested in him romantically. Why haven't you held his hand or kissed him? Maybe you should consider doing it.
His reluctance to show romantic interest could be because you are coworkers, or because he isn't sure what you're feeling. And yes, it could also be that he simply wants a talk buddy. Maybe rather than act hurt or used you could be a little more proactive and move things along. It is a bit of a risk for you to do so, but if he calls you often, the odds are in your favor that he might be interested in you. After all, guys generally don't look for talk buddies.
VictorM's advice:
Is he interested in romance? He may not be, but he could be. I mean, you never held his hand and you never kissed him, and yet you're interested in him romantically. Why haven't you held his hand or kissed him? Maybe you should consider doing it.
His reluctance to show romantic interest could be because you are coworkers, or because he isn't sure what you're feeling. And yes, it could also be that he simply wants a talk buddy. Maybe rather than act hurt or used you could be a little more proactive and move things along. It is a bit of a risk for you to do so, but if he calls you often, the odds are in your favor that he might be interested in you. After all, guys generally don't look for talk buddies.
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