Well, last month, we were VERY intoxicated, and we ended up in bed. We were on the verge of going all the way when I realized what a bad idea it was and I said, "Wait, we have to stop." Then he said, "Get dressed, I don't want to think about what just happened."

After he brought me home that night, we stopped talking for the next couple of weeks. Finally, I swallowed my pride and called him up like I usually would, just to try to get things back to normal. When I asked him how he was and when we were going to hang out, he was somewhat cold and told me that he would see me some other time.

I've read your advice to girls who found themselves in similar situations, but my dilemma in this case is, how do I get my friend back? I want to make it clear that I have absolutely no romantic interest in him, and I'm actually worried that he might think that because of what happened, I like him THAT WAY. That's really not the case, I just want the friendship back. How do I make it clear to him that I still see him as my best guy friend, and that all I want is for things to get back to normal?

VictorM's advice:

Telling him you have no romantic feelings for him poses a problem because: a) maybe he does like you romantically, you just haven't noticed, and your confession (in his mind, rejection) will only drive him further away, or b) you'd be crushing his ego (even if he doesn't want you romantically, his ego will want you to want him). So, whatever you do, don't bring this topic.

Avoid discussions about that night and just keep trying to call him as you have in the past and plan similar types of activities as if nothing ever happened. It may take some time and a few tries, but the best way to get things back to normal is to act normal and the best way to get over the incident is to not bring up the incident. Do what you have always done and give him some time to sort out his thoughts.

But there are times when a certain event changes things forever. This maybe such a case.