Nina,

Believe it or not, I read your entire detailed submission with enthusiasm. My eyes are still bleeding. :) (just kidding).

I don't really have the time right now to go into all the detail I'd like to go into. Also, this page, along with your request to keep things confidential, doesn't facilitate an answer.

I will say this: I think you grossly misinterpreted the good sign/bag sign analysis. Your understand about guys and their behavior needs a lot of work.

The way you describe yourself I can understand the feelings of intimidation that guys feel. And in the case of your fellow student, I wouldn't be surprised if that came into play. Lots of guys will simply stay away from a woman like you, even if you make it clear you like them -- as you clearly did with this one guy -- simply because they feel they can not measure up to you.

Please consider that attraction is never about you; it's about how the guy feels when he's around you. If a guy feels he can't afford your tastes and your life style, or that you attract too much attention from guys, no matter how much he likes you, he'll avoid you, even if at times he likes being around you.

Your problem is very common for girls who are "beautiful". You tend to attract the guys that are after sex or a trophy date but you scare away many other guys.

Darn... there's a lot more to stay about your submission. Maybe you can join the argville forum (this way we can correspond without you having to give me your email address).