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Wednesday, July 23, 2008
It was amazing
Submitted on Friday, July 18, 2008
By lorett, 20, from cleveland:
I dated this guy for two weeks. it was amazing. i dont know how but we clicked. he wanted to meet my parents and freinds. loved everyone. everyone told me you could see he really cared about me. on our end things moved very quickly physically. last time i saw him we had a normal night for us he kissed me and said hed call me on wedsneday. never did. he also signed me up for one of his softball teams paid for everything never told me when the gamne was on thursday. while we were together the few times i noticed if i was slightly late he would text asking if i was still coming. this came off as somewhat insecure to me. so did he use me for sex or is he scared? should i ask whats up or leave it alone?
VictorM's advice:
If he wanted you just for sex, wouldn't he still be having sex with you? Girls love to use this "he used me for sex" nonsense when you had sex because you chose to, didn't you?
Yeah, you should call him and ask what's up. I don't know if there's a legitimate reason for his behavior or not. Maybe there is. If there isn't, then he just got over you. It happens all the time, more so when the beginning is so intense.
By lorett, 20, from cleveland:
I dated this guy for two weeks. it was amazing. i dont know how but we clicked. he wanted to meet my parents and freinds. loved everyone. everyone told me you could see he really cared about me. on our end things moved very quickly physically. last time i saw him we had a normal night for us he kissed me and said hed call me on wedsneday. never did. he also signed me up for one of his softball teams paid for everything never told me when the gamne was on thursday. while we were together the few times i noticed if i was slightly late he would text asking if i was still coming. this came off as somewhat insecure to me. so did he use me for sex or is he scared? should i ask whats up or leave it alone?
VictorM's advice:
If he wanted you just for sex, wouldn't he still be having sex with you? Girls love to use this "he used me for sex" nonsense when you had sex because you chose to, didn't you?
Yeah, you should call him and ask what's up. I don't know if there's a legitimate reason for his behavior or not. Maybe there is. If there isn't, then he just got over you. It happens all the time, more so when the beginning is so intense.
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If he wanted you just for sex, wouldn't he still be having sex with you?
Oh, c'mon. You're not being entirely honest. He wouldn't necessarily still be hanging around with his dick in his hands. He identified an easy target, moved fast, went in for the kill, got what he wanted, then got out. Simple. On to the next conquest.
Girls love to use this "he used me for sex" nonsense when you had sex because you chose to, didn't you?
Now now, don't shame lorett into feeling guilty. Girls "use" this line only when they feel, you know, used. Which, lorett, I think you were. He swept you off your feet by going really overboard on the whole wanting to meet your fam and friends so soon after you got together - this is not normal guy behavior. This guy's a real pro! Guys know that this technique is a fast way into a girl's heart AND her panties. There are whole web sites dedicated to wooing and bedding women. You thought he was headed down the path of romance, so you threw yourself against him like a dog in the rain. Ohhhh we women are so stupid and eager.
Ladies? The whirlwind romance is a myth. MYTH. And don't ever have sex with a new guy for the first time unless your intentions to yourself are clear: pleasure and only pleasure. Don't walk into the bedroom hoping to walk out with a diamond ring. Expect this and yeah, you'll only wind up feeling "used."
But because I am ultimately an idealist, lorett, I hope I'm wrong. Let us know if you hear from your guy.
And Victor...does THIS post satisfy your desire to be (and I quote) "pounded to a pulp?" If so, nice bait. I gulped it down.
Oh, c'mon. You're not being entirely honest. He wouldn't necessarily still be hanging around with his dick in his hands. He identified an easy target, moved fast, went in for the kill, got what he wanted, then got out. Simple. On to the next conquest.
Girls love to use this "he used me for sex" nonsense when you had sex because you chose to, didn't you?
Now now, don't shame lorett into feeling guilty. Girls "use" this line only when they feel, you know, used. Which, lorett, I think you were. He swept you off your feet by going really overboard on the whole wanting to meet your fam and friends so soon after you got together - this is not normal guy behavior. This guy's a real pro! Guys know that this technique is a fast way into a girl's heart AND her panties. There are whole web sites dedicated to wooing and bedding women. You thought he was headed down the path of romance, so you threw yourself against him like a dog in the rain. Ohhhh we women are so stupid and eager.
Ladies? The whirlwind romance is a myth. MYTH. And don't ever have sex with a new guy for the first time unless your intentions to yourself are clear: pleasure and only pleasure. Don't walk into the bedroom hoping to walk out with a diamond ring. Expect this and yeah, you'll only wind up feeling "used."
But because I am ultimately an idealist, lorett, I hope I'm wrong. Let us know if you hear from your guy.
And Victor...does THIS post satisfy your desire to be (and I quote) "pounded to a pulp?" If so, nice bait. I gulped it down.
# posted by 
: 10:19 AM
: 10:19 AM
Not guilt, princess, I'm talking about accepting responsibility for her decisions. She chose to have sex. There's nothing to feel guilty about, but it was her choice. I'm just saying she owns that decision.
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