Submitted on Monday, July 21, 2008
By Anne, 20, from Pittsburgh:

My ex and I met through work in January. He was six years older than me and had a two year old daughter with his ex. We were happy. He told me he had never been so comfortable around anyone else, I made him the happiest he had ever been, and that he thought we were meant to be. So when he went into the hospital and disappered so no one could find him, I was worried. Then his ex sent me myspace messages telling me how they got together all the time behind my back. I freaked out. I called and left nasty voicemails (because he wouldnt answer his phone) saying that I hated him and regretted everything with him. I told his best friend i would walk out on him if he came to work. well his best friend told him and he wouldnt come to work until i agreed to not walk out. he explained to me that he was in the hospital because he had attempted suicide. i was speechless. so he came back to work and i didnt talk to him. but eventually i did. he tried flirting with me but i pushed him away. i was so mad. he told me that his ex has done this before that she breaks up his relationships and says he cheats with her. then he asked me if there would be another chance i didnt give a clear answer. i was just so mad at him. i didnt even want to see him. so over the next few days he would flirt with the other girls. and when i got my schedule his ex was going to work at the store. he told me it was for one shift and that he didn't ask her to do it, his boss did. i was so pissed i quit. i threw my uniform at him and walked out. for three days he fought me literally begging me that he didn't want me to quit because i was a good worker and he wanted me to stay for at least one more week. i refused. then he just stopped. then exactly two weeks after i quit, he quit. Titles his myspace with "i say five vowels and three syllables there unnoticed and your so dreamable" yet he had deleted me and added his ex. his best friend will randomly talk to me (he had told me that i was an awesome girlfriend and he didn't want me to leave) and ask me to come party with him. i always say no. i havent heard anything since. So my question is why did he do all that? Did i drive him to it? Did he cheat? Did he actually care? Why won't he talk to me?

VictorM's advice:

Some men are liars, cheaters, irresponsible, unreliable, and cowardly. Seems like you hit the jackpot when you stumbled onto this guy. He was all those things before he met you; he'll be all those things without you around. It's nothing you did and nothing that you can say or do will change any of that.