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Monday, June 23, 2008
My boyfriend constantly wants to have anal sex with me
Submitted on Friday, June 20, 2008
By Sheah, 18, from arizona:
My boyfriend constantly wants to have anal sex with me. I've only done it once before with another guy when i was drunk and I really don't remember much. He keeps trying to get me to do it, and once it went a little in, but it hurt so I stopped him. I'm afraid of certain 'complications' that might arise if we ever did do it. Sometimes he gets frustrated when I don't want to, and basicaly I'm asking why do guys want to do it so bad? Does it mean that I'm not good enough? I don't understand, PLEASE HELP.
Thanks !
VictorM's advice:
Wanting anal sex has nothing at all to do with you not being good enough. Not at all.
Anal sex is very popular these days because porn has made it so. Guys see it, the porn models all seem to enjoy it (the operative word there being "seem"), and guys get ideas from that. There are other appeals to anal sex, such as: it has a sense of naughtiness about it that enhances the excitement of sex, it feels tighter than the vagina and many guys like that sensation, and it won't get the girl pregnant.
By Sheah, 18, from arizona:
My boyfriend constantly wants to have anal sex with me. I've only done it once before with another guy when i was drunk and I really don't remember much. He keeps trying to get me to do it, and once it went a little in, but it hurt so I stopped him. I'm afraid of certain 'complications' that might arise if we ever did do it. Sometimes he gets frustrated when I don't want to, and basicaly I'm asking why do guys want to do it so bad? Does it mean that I'm not good enough? I don't understand, PLEASE HELP.
Thanks !
VictorM's advice:
Wanting anal sex has nothing at all to do with you not being good enough. Not at all.
Anal sex is very popular these days because porn has made it so. Guys see it, the porn models all seem to enjoy it (the operative word there being "seem"), and guys get ideas from that. There are other appeals to anal sex, such as: it has a sense of naughtiness about it that enhances the excitement of sex, it feels tighter than the vagina and many guys like that sensation, and it won't get the girl pregnant.
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Just remember that he should respect your right to say no... but you may find that you enjoy the anal sex too (My boyfriend and I have done it several times) - the key is to be really comfortable with each other and RELAX. If you're tense its painful. When you relax, and he's gentle enough, its fun and very erotic, trust me, its a great turn on! But once again, its YOUR choice and YOUR body and you have the ultimate right to say no anytime! Good luck :)
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: 8:04 AM
: 8:04 AM
Lube lube lube lube lube lube lube. And then more lube. And if he keeps pressuring you? Dump him.
# posted by : 10:24 AM
: 10:24 AM
Hmmm. Tell him you'll consent only after he lets you fuck HIM up the ass first. If he says ok, then go buy the biggest dildo you can lay your hands on.
# posted by : 8:06 PM
: 8:06 PM
San Antone Rose...that was awesome!!!
If a guy is going to throw a tantrum because he wants it so bad but it hurts you and you feel uncomfortable; then he is not looking out for you at all. You want someone that is going to be patient, loving, and reassuring when you do something new...not a big cry baby. I agree with Princess. If he keeps throwing his tantrums, dump him because it won't get any better. It's your body and you should have someone that values it.
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If a guy is going to throw a tantrum because he wants it so bad but it hurts you and you feel uncomfortable; then he is not looking out for you at all. You want someone that is going to be patient, loving, and reassuring when you do something new...not a big cry baby. I agree with Princess. If he keeps throwing his tantrums, dump him because it won't get any better. It's your body and you should have someone that values it.
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