Submitted on Monday, June 16, 2008
By Amy, 13, from United States:

Hi. I have this bf and we'v been going out for almost a year now. Anyway there was this girl who would flirt with every guy in school and my bf was one of them. im not sure if she knew i was going out with him or not... and me and my bf never really talked in school that much cuz we only had one class together. Also im the one who calls him. He only called me twice before but the first time he had a qustion for me about a note that he got from the girl i just told you about and so he aksed me about it to see if it was true and it wasnt!. Anyway the second time he called i wasnt home i was at a friends house. then when i got home my mom said he called so i called him back. He just wanted to ask me to go to a movie with him. ( im not saying thats a bad thing ) but sometimes i wish he would call me a little bit more. This summer i havent been able to call him cuz iv been busy helping my mom around the house and going over next door and helping them do some yard work and stuff like that. Sometimes i wonder if he even cares at all or if he might be cheating but i really dout he is... i love him so much i dont want to lose him again but im not so sure what to do anymore?

VictorM's advice:

Two things I have to say:

1. Get used to guys not calling you as much as you'd like. It's very typical for calls to call when there's actually something specific to say, not just to blabber life away. But if you wish he would call you more often, even if just to say hello, let him know that. But don't nag him about it.

2. "i love him so much i don't want to lose him" ... the "don't want to lose him" thinking tends to make girls suffocating and dependent. Fight that feeling if you want to be happy. I'm not saying you shouldn't care, but your attitude may lead to neediness. Don't worry about losing him; worry about being happy and respected. If you lose him... well, you're better off without him than with an unhappy him.