I could really use your advise here... It's been a year and a couple of months now since I've started dating my boyfriend and truth is, inspite of the problems that may get in the way, I really love him and he feels the same way about me.

The thing is that I've never been very "opened" to show my affection and to let someone know I care. I think I changed a little but my boyfriend tells me he doesn't feel important, that I don't make him feel important or unique. He's too jealous and I'm just a little jealous, he says I'm too cold sometimes or that I don't do or say anything unless he does it first.

Bottomline is: I don't make him feel special. I do tell him "I love you" all the time and kiss him and all that but I wish there was another way to LET HIM FEEL that he's the most important thing. He does that. He makes me feel I'm priority no. 1 and takes care of me like no one else. I just wish there was a way I could do the same for him because he really deserves it...
Thanks for reading!

VictorM's advice:

Mariana! I thought you had abandoned me. Good to know you're still around.

I'm going to submit to you that you do make him feel special. Here's my logic: as I say over and over on this page, men love a challenge. That's why they can be very attentive when they are trying to seduce a woman but once they succeed and the challenge goes away, they get lazy. I think you make him feel special because you are a challenge to him. This is part of the reason he makes you priority number one -- because he's not totally sure he's gotten you 100%. For my money, you should stay this way for a lifetime. Let him complain about you not making him feel special. The more he feels that you, the longer you'll stay his number one priority.

But... since I suspect you won't believe me and will want to spoil him, remember that guys are very physical beings and their ego must be what gets attention. Feelings and emotions don't do much for guys. It's nice that you say "I love you", or things like "I'm thinking of you", but that does not make a guy feel special. What does? (Come on, regular readers, say it with me): Simple, sincere compliments.

"Diego, your ass looks great in those pants", "You look so good in that shirt, Diego", "Oh my Diego, you turn me on so much when you talk about [topic]", "Diego, you smell so good", "You really make me laugh, Diego". etc. (I use the name Diego because I think all Argentinian boys born after the 80's are named after the great one, no?) Notice that all sentences I use as examples start with "you", not with "I". Don't say "I love how you smell." That makes the thought about you. It has to be all about him... about his body, his intellect, his sense of humor, his sexiness.

I say it again: no feelings and no emotions (he'll want to hear those as well, so don't stop saying "I love you") but to make him feel special give him compliments and make them simple, make them sincere, and make them about him, not you.

(PS. Saw the Argentina vs USA game in New York on June 8. It was the hottest and most humid day ever, but the stadium was sold out (more than 79,000) and the game was entertaining. Argentina could have scored a few goals in the first half but our goalkeeper kept us in the game, and in the second half, in part because Argentina rested players, the USA made a game of it. The crowd was fantastic -- very enthusiastic and noisy. Lots of blue and white jerseys all over. I loved every minute of it. And seeing Messi in person was very special.)