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Friday, June 27, 2008
He is 4 years younger than me
Submitted on Wednesday, June 25, 2008
By Aubrey, 28, from New Jersey:
Ok so I have been dating a guy who is 4 years younger than me. That took a while to get past and he was by my side the whole time. He's a great guy who loved me and did tons of romantic stuff for me. He poured his heart out to me everyday. The thing was I had such a hard time getting past the age thing and he is now very mad at me for not introducing to him to my parents yet. He says he has never been hurt like that before and now he says he's not sure if he wants to work things out and had kinda backed away. He says he still loves me very much but he is just very hurt and he says it will take a while to get over it. He says I should deal with the coldness because I made it happen. He gave me time to prove how much I love him and I need to know if that's what he really wants and what the most romantic thing I can do for him is?
By Aubrey, 28, from New Jersey:
Ok so I have been dating a guy who is 4 years younger than me. That took a while to get past and he was by my side the whole time. He's a great guy who loved me and did tons of romantic stuff for me. He poured his heart out to me everyday. The thing was I had such a hard time getting past the age thing and he is now very mad at me for not introducing to him to my parents yet. He says he has never been hurt like that before and now he says he's not sure if he wants to work things out and had kinda backed away. He says he still loves me very much but he is just very hurt and he says it will take a while to get over it. He says I should deal with the coldness because I made it happen. He gave me time to prove how much I love him and I need to know if that's what he really wants and what the most romantic thing I can do for him is?
Oh and all he wants is blow jobs. He seems hesistant to have sex now. What is up with that?
VictorM'a advice:
First, 4 years difference is nothing. Really, get over it! It's his maturity level that you should worry about.
Second, your boyfriend is a freaking baby! "He has never been hurt like that" because you're not ready to introduce him to your parents? What a cry baby. And he "gave you time to prove how much you love him"? That's such a childish thing to say. And you "should deal with the coldness"? As if coldness ever solved anything. Are you sure he's only 4 years younger and not 14?
Third, since you don't seem determined to just yell at him "GROW THE FUCK UP, CRYBABY!", which is what he needs to hear, what I suggest you do to appease this child is to say the magic words: "I was wrong. You were right. I'm so sorry." But then I advise you strongly to walk away and stop making a fuss over him. If you continue to allow his coldness, you'll forever be kissing his ass. Instead, by humbling apologizing and walking away, you transfer to him the guilt of having to make things better again.
As for him wanting blow jobs only... well, a blow job is much less personal than intercourse. It's probably the cheapest act in a hooker's price list. Sounds like he's managed to make you his whore, if you're doing it just because that's all he wants. If you continue to succumb to this request, well, maybe you deserve this cry baby after all.
VictorM'a advice:
First, 4 years difference is nothing. Really, get over it! It's his maturity level that you should worry about.
Second, your boyfriend is a freaking baby! "He has never been hurt like that" because you're not ready to introduce him to your parents? What a cry baby. And he "gave you time to prove how much you love him"? That's such a childish thing to say. And you "should deal with the coldness"? As if coldness ever solved anything. Are you sure he's only 4 years younger and not 14?
Third, since you don't seem determined to just yell at him "GROW THE FUCK UP, CRYBABY!", which is what he needs to hear, what I suggest you do to appease this child is to say the magic words: "I was wrong. You were right. I'm so sorry." But then I advise you strongly to walk away and stop making a fuss over him. If you continue to allow his coldness, you'll forever be kissing his ass. Instead, by humbling apologizing and walking away, you transfer to him the guilt of having to make things better again.
As for him wanting blow jobs only... well, a blow job is much less personal than intercourse. It's probably the cheapest act in a hooker's price list. Sounds like he's managed to make you his whore, if you're doing it just because that's all he wants. If you continue to succumb to this request, well, maybe you deserve this cry baby after all.
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Sounds like he's managed to make you his whore
Ouch! Easy, there Victor. Sheesh.
Ouch! Easy, there Victor. Sheesh.
# posted by 
: 7:23 PM
: 7:23 PM
I think bjs are cheap because they don't require a hooker to get undressed, making it quick and less messy. They also make up for the price in volume. Most guys ask for bjs because they can't get 'em at home. Or so I've heard. ;P
And hey, if giving head is impersonal then YER DOIN IT WRONG. Curious to know if you consider cunnilingus to be less personal. Or is it not the same kind of thing when the genders are reversed? And if not, then why?
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And hey, if giving head is impersonal then YER DOIN IT WRONG. Curious to know if you consider cunnilingus to be less personal. Or is it not the same kind of thing when the genders are reversed? And if not, then why?
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