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Wednesday, June 25, 2008
He finally asked me to officially be his girlfriend
Submitted on Monday, June 23, 2008
By Fiorella Rhe feivera, 22, from Tampa, FL:
I have been dating this guy for about 3 and a half months and he finally asked me to officially be his girlfriend. He used to be more affectionate and send me texts, for example, throughout the day and now I feel that he definitely likes me but maybe he feels a little weird after making things official. I feel like we are best friends, he hasn't even called me a nickname like babe or baby yet. Is this normal? Could he be getting cold feet? I used to feel he was soo in to me why has he suddenly changed now thats its official?
VictorM's advice:
I don't believe cold feet are involved. What you described is very common. Basically, the dynamics of your relationship changed and the guy went from full out trying to seduce you (when guys work hardest) to having won you over (when they become secure and lazy). He's done the hard work, now he can sit back and relax.
This shift in behavior is par for the course for many males. It's one of the major sources for female dissatisfaction and for relationship break-ups. Put up with it and it will only get worse. This is why "playing hard to get" works: as long as guys feel they have a challenge, they work for it; remove the challenge and they become jello.
As for pet nicknames... well, not all guys like using them. It has nothing to do with whether he likes you or not.
By Fiorella Rhe feivera, 22, from Tampa, FL:
I have been dating this guy for about 3 and a half months and he finally asked me to officially be his girlfriend. He used to be more affectionate and send me texts, for example, throughout the day and now I feel that he definitely likes me but maybe he feels a little weird after making things official. I feel like we are best friends, he hasn't even called me a nickname like babe or baby yet. Is this normal? Could he be getting cold feet? I used to feel he was soo in to me why has he suddenly changed now thats its official?
VictorM's advice:
I don't believe cold feet are involved. What you described is very common. Basically, the dynamics of your relationship changed and the guy went from full out trying to seduce you (when guys work hardest) to having won you over (when they become secure and lazy). He's done the hard work, now he can sit back and relax.
This shift in behavior is par for the course for many males. It's one of the major sources for female dissatisfaction and for relationship break-ups. Put up with it and it will only get worse. This is why "playing hard to get" works: as long as guys feel they have a challenge, they work for it; remove the challenge and they become jello.
As for pet nicknames... well, not all guys like using them. It has nothing to do with whether he likes you or not.
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