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Tuesday, May 06, 2008
Smart to date an ex?
Submitted on Saturday, May 03, 2008
By Mareike, 21, from Chicago, IL:
I've been dating a guy for a little over a month now. I dated him when I was 17 before for about a year, and it ended because I moved pretty far away for a couple years and I was really immature about little things that were insignificant. I guess I just wasn't ready at all for a long distance relationship. So I guess I have two questions, the first being is it not smart to date someone again that is an ex? I've heard that alot before, that if it didn't work before, there must be a reason it won't again. Also, I only see him twice a month currently, more often in the near future. He's very hesitant to talk on the phone with me though. He says its because he doesn't like to hear my voice knowing he can't physically be with me. I guess its just annoying to not have any contact in between the two weeks of not seeing him. Is he being honest do you think?
VictorM's advice:
I would believe him about the phone thing. I think most guys feel that way.
Under the circumstances you described, I would think it's OK to date an ex. You were both too young and the breakup happened mostly for reasons beyond your control. Don't let that stop you from trying again.
By Mareike, 21, from Chicago, IL:
I've been dating a guy for a little over a month now. I dated him when I was 17 before for about a year, and it ended because I moved pretty far away for a couple years and I was really immature about little things that were insignificant. I guess I just wasn't ready at all for a long distance relationship. So I guess I have two questions, the first being is it not smart to date someone again that is an ex? I've heard that alot before, that if it didn't work before, there must be a reason it won't again. Also, I only see him twice a month currently, more often in the near future. He's very hesitant to talk on the phone with me though. He says its because he doesn't like to hear my voice knowing he can't physically be with me. I guess its just annoying to not have any contact in between the two weeks of not seeing him. Is he being honest do you think?
VictorM's advice:
I would believe him about the phone thing. I think most guys feel that way.
Under the circumstances you described, I would think it's OK to date an ex. You were both too young and the breakup happened mostly for reasons beyond your control. Don't let that stop you from trying again.
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