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Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Is it bad to tell a guy you like him?
Submitted on Sunday, May 11, 2008
By Jamie, 16, from Colorado:
So, the guy I like recently became aware of that fact. His reaction was, "Hmm. That's good to know." I totally don't know how to read that or what to do. I want to just forget about it, but I can't move on. He's really sweet, gets along with everyone, and we're into the same things. What do I do? Is it bad to tell a guy you like him?
VictorM's advice:
Yes, it generally is a mistake to tell a guy you like him. Why? Because it feeds his ego and guys start thinking... hey, if Jamie likes me, maybe Suzy, or Carol, or Amber, or Bambi like me too. And it most likely to set them off to see who else they can get because they know that Jamie is a sure thing. Guys don't really like a sure thing; they like mystery and conquest and a challenge. Now, you provide none of those.
What to do? Start giving him a bit of the cold shoulder. That does not mean be rude, it just means don't pay him a lot of attention. Then, he's likely to start wondering what's the matter with you and voila! you become a mystery. This is why playing hard to get pays off.
By Jamie, 16, from Colorado:
So, the guy I like recently became aware of that fact. His reaction was, "Hmm. That's good to know." I totally don't know how to read that or what to do. I want to just forget about it, but I can't move on. He's really sweet, gets along with everyone, and we're into the same things. What do I do? Is it bad to tell a guy you like him?
VictorM's advice:
Yes, it generally is a mistake to tell a guy you like him. Why? Because it feeds his ego and guys start thinking... hey, if Jamie likes me, maybe Suzy, or Carol, or Amber, or Bambi like me too. And it most likely to set them off to see who else they can get because they know that Jamie is a sure thing. Guys don't really like a sure thing; they like mystery and conquest and a challenge. Now, you provide none of those.
What to do? Start giving him a bit of the cold shoulder. That does not mean be rude, it just means don't pay him a lot of attention. Then, he's likely to start wondering what's the matter with you and voila! you become a mystery. This is why playing hard to get pays off.
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