Submitted on Wednesday, April 30, 2008
By charlotte, 26, from san saba:

I met a guy in my office building a few months ago. We hit it off immediately as friends. Now, about 4 months later we are boyfriend/girlfriend. Problem is when he was showing me something on email, I saw an email from a popular website and it was regarding a personal he placed on this website. I was not even aware that this website had personals. I looked on there and sure enough I found his profile. I have not been able to stop thinking about it, but have decided to wait a week or so before I say anything. Last night we hung out and being that I cannot stop thinking of the profile he has on this website, I was being hypercritical in evaluating how he was acting towards me. Truth be told, after he finished doing what he was doing, he was acting pretty normal and was sweet to me. I was a little sarcastic. When he walked me to my car, he was kissing on my cheek and then I pulled him closer and said come here and I kissed him on the lips. Then my feelings of insecurity washed over me and i said: "you are being kinda weird today". As he closed my car door, I don't even think I looked at him. I feel badly for leaving like I did - so immaturely. I called him later that night not too long after I returned home to tell him that something real quick-left a cute message-and I never heard back. What do you think of my behavior. Could he be that mad?

VictorM's advice:

I suppose he could be mad but if you're basing your submissions on him not returning a call from one night earlier, particularly when he didn't seem to be mad, I'd say you're jumping the gun.

Just ask the guy about the profile instead of letting it eat you from the inside. There could be a perfectly reasonable explanation.