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Sunday, May 04, 2008
I feel our time for anything more is now
Submitted on Thursday, May 01, 2008
By F, 29, from CAnada:
Me and my best friend who I love eventually acknowledged that we had feelings for each about a month back, however timing meant that we couldn't really be together in a relationship. He wasn't/isn't ready due to some issues that he needs to sort out and I am leaving the country. Out of respect for him, as I know he needs to sort himself out, I chose to not pursue it.
However, the friends-only thing has become very frustrating. We've inexplicably got closer, touching knees and blatant footsie going on, mainly by him, staying up till the early hours of the morning and general staring at each other. I am going away for the year in 4 weeks... I know our friendship will always be there but I feel our time for anything more is now.... my question is am I right in thinking he feels the same and should I just go for it??
Thanks
VictorM's advice:
You are sadly mistaken if you think your friendship will always be there. You may become lovers or you may not, but you'll never be the kind of friends you were before.
Just because he touches and flirts with you does not follow that he would be interested in more at this time. You shouldn't assume he does. However, given the interest you have shown on each other, what's the point in not going for it? Going away and dealing with the "what if..." is a lot worse than even a flat rejection. You need to know where things stand and how to live your life while you're away.
By F, 29, from CAnada:
Me and my best friend who I love eventually acknowledged that we had feelings for each about a month back, however timing meant that we couldn't really be together in a relationship. He wasn't/isn't ready due to some issues that he needs to sort out and I am leaving the country. Out of respect for him, as I know he needs to sort himself out, I chose to not pursue it.
However, the friends-only thing has become very frustrating. We've inexplicably got closer, touching knees and blatant footsie going on, mainly by him, staying up till the early hours of the morning and general staring at each other. I am going away for the year in 4 weeks... I know our friendship will always be there but I feel our time for anything more is now.... my question is am I right in thinking he feels the same and should I just go for it??
Thanks
VictorM's advice:
You are sadly mistaken if you think your friendship will always be there. You may become lovers or you may not, but you'll never be the kind of friends you were before.
Just because he touches and flirts with you does not follow that he would be interested in more at this time. You shouldn't assume he does. However, given the interest you have shown on each other, what's the point in not going for it? Going away and dealing with the "what if..." is a lot worse than even a flat rejection. You need to know where things stand and how to live your life while you're away.
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